In hospital missing DS
onlygirlinthehome · 01/10/2018 19:52
Hello I'm currently in hospital and have been in for the last 4 days I'm missing my DS so much it hurts more than the reason I'm here. AIBU for wanting to leave early just to be with him. I feel he feels I've left him and he doesn't understand he is nearly 3. It's breaking me. My mom reassures me his is fine n happy. But I took him to nursery on Thursday and he hasn't seen me since. My mom did bring him to me was the best hour ever but he cried so much on leaving it's breaking me
SilverLining10 · 01/10/2018 19:54
I'm so sorry op. How are you feeling? Any idea when you will be discharged?
I can imagine how utterly devastating it is to be separated from him. Can your mum bring him every day until you leave. X
AngeloMysterioso · 01/10/2018 19:56
Don’t be daft OP. You must be in hospital for a reason. Your kid will survive being apart from you for a few days.
icelollycraving · 01/10/2018 20:06
Poor you. He will miss you because he loves you. He’s fine with your mum. Take the opportunity to get rest. If you are in hospital for days, you must be very unwell. I hope you feel much better soon so you can go home to your little boy.
onlygirlinthehome · 01/10/2018 20:36
I've been here since Thursday no sign of getting out. It's for neurological reasons it's driving me crazy I'm not sleeping it upset us both when he did come we decided it's best he doesn't and stays and plays at my moms where he gets so much love from my mom n step dad. It's hurts me I'm crying now. I sound mad I know but it took me 4 years and 4 losses to get him
icelollycraving · 01/10/2018 20:51
It doesn’t sound mad at all. If you didn’t miss them thst would be more worrying!
What a lucky boy, to be surrounded with love. He is fine, he is having an adventure with your mum. Kids are very resilient.
FullOfJellyBeans · 01/10/2018 20:54
Of course you miss him I definitely wouldn't leave early though, it's not worth the risk.
Dobbythesockelf · 01/10/2018 20:56
I was hospitalised this time last year a few times over the space of 3 months. I felt the same way about my dd who was 2 1/2 at the time. She got upset when she visited as well. It sucks being in hospital but obviously it is the best place if you are ill. My dd sometimes mentions visiting me in hospital but it had no effect on her whatsoever, she was maybe clingy for a few days when I came home but she hot over it pretty fast and it's now a distant memory. Hope you feel better soon xx
lifecouldbeadream · 01/10/2018 20:58
When my DD was 4 I was in hospital on and off for 4 weeks, if you are allowed off the ward and are physically able, could you go down to the cafe and have lunch or dinner together, it made a huge difference to us to be able to spend a bit more time together in a slightly less medical environment.
Grumpbum123 · 01/10/2018 21:01
Much sympathy it’s really hard I’ve been away from my children due to multiple hospital admissions and this last one being since 28/08 and likely not going home until the 17/10 it’s beyond hard. I hope you get home soon
SloeBerries · 01/10/2018 21:11
Personally I’d br by him still, it’s harder not to see than upset seeing. My kids got upset when I was in hospital, but one being a bit older could explain it was far worse not seeing me at all. Can you leave the ward? We found it easier to have fun time in the hospital garden, hide and seek etc and play, rather than the stress of round a bed
onlygirlinthehome · 02/10/2018 20:15
Hello. I'm still here in hospital it's driving me mad and breaking my heart mom sent me a video of DS earlier with him saying miss you mommy and I burst into tears.
babbscrabbs · 02/10/2018 22:06
I'd still get them to bring him in. Hope your well soon.
AdaColeman · 02/10/2018 22:16
You poor soul, it's so hard I know.
When I was little I was in hospital a lot, visiting was very limited in those days, and my Mum used to send me a postcard every day with a little message.
Maybe you could do something like that? It might cheer you up? Is there a hospital shop there for cards and stamps?
I hope you soon make a good recovery, kindest wishes.
stationaryace · 02/10/2018 23:14
I've been in twice for two weeks over the last two months and leaving my girls at home (3 and 1) was the hardest bit. Even though I knew they were well taken care of by my dh and mum, and I was sending photos and talking to them on the phone, it really hurt. It felt like the last part of me was being taken away. The hardest part was weighing up my desire to see them every day with their own well being - so compromised on weekend visits to the park (I got day release) and the hospital garden. It really sucks and all you can do is get through it.
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