DS Rugby match

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Ds(8) started playing rugby this September. I am happy that he has expressed an interest in team sports as he never has before, having tried soccer and cricket in the past. He is quite shy at times and Im happy he has asked to try rugby and is enjoying it. He has been to four training sessions and had his first match on Saturday.

His next match is next week, in a town 1 hour 40 mins from us. The team is looking for numbers for a bus to bus the children to the match. I am reluctant to send him away on a bus with coaches and parents I do not know. I am working so cannot bring him to the match. DH could drive him but would have to bring DS2 (6) along and I know he would be complaining /bored. DH thinks it's fine to send him on the bus and that he will be the odd one out if his Dad drives him. I can be over protective at times as one of my siblings was abused as a child by someone who our family trusted and I am so fearful something could happen to our children. I know this clouds my judgement sometimes but my sibling and my family live with the impact of this every day and DH fails to see the impact it has had on us sometimes.

AIBU to insist that DH drive him to the match?

Mine use to go on the bus or with parents from 6. I didn’t think anything of it, so I think you’re being too over sensitive about this.

Going on the bus with your team mates is a huge part of the fun and excitement of playing away matches. He will possible be singled out if he doesn't travel on the bus. You need to let him go and find some independence. How old is he?

I think YAB a bit over protective. Surely he's been on school trips before. OK you might not know the coach well but presumably he's been DBS checked and has looked after kids before and knows what he's doing. If DS wants to go I'd let him go on the coach with his friends.

Sorry. I see he is 8. He will be fine on the bus. Honestly. Let hime enjoy his childhood and don't mollycoddle him.

I say this as someone whose eldest child was killed when she was 5. I vowed never to let her younger siblings be hampered by any feelings I had arising from her death and they were both given a lot of independence to allow them to develop and grow.

Ok, thanks for the advice and perspective Thoughthick, Apollo and Fullof JellyBeans.

I'm so sorry about your child Apollo. Well done for not allowing it to hamper your feelings with your other child.

I think I need to do some work myself to get over my issues. My mother did molly coddle us and one of us still got hurt.

Thanks all.