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To Embarrassed about crying in the bathroom?

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SuperElmoToTheRescue · 01/10/2018 12:05

Yesterday we took the DC to see their grandparents (my MIL and FIL). DH had been a bit grumpy with me in the car. When we got there i took the children to the door and we went in. Their grandparents had come to the hallway so it was a bit of a squash trying to get in so i guided the DC into the dining room ahead of us. DH was huffing and puffing behind me trying to get in. Just as i was about to go through the doorway to the dining room, i realised in all the commotion, i had forgotten to take my shoes off and so stretched my leg out to take them off and put them by the front door. DH then got fed up and pushed his way through ahead of me and pretended to trip over my leg in a dramatic fashion, flying into the room. He then turns round and yells at me in a really nasty way 'what on earth do you think you are doing? Why did you trip me up?' I was so overwhelmed that i burst into tears and went to the bathroom. He followed me and said sorry through the door but i could tell really he was just desperate for me not to embarrass him and make a scene. I didn't reply, and then MIL came knocking to say that the DC were wondering where i was. I came out straight away and felt so embarrassed. Particularly as nobody said anything about it at all.....it was like it never happened.

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 01/10/2018 12:10

You have nothing to be embassed about of course him behaving like an arse hole is going to upset you.
Is this usual behaviour for him.

TokyoSushi · 01/10/2018 12:12

He sounds like a knob.

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SuperElmoToTheRescue · 01/10/2018 12:22

He does behave like this but not usually in public. I think the bit that upset me the most was that no one said anything. They saw him yell at me in such a nasty way and then pretended like nothing had happened.

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AuntBeastie · 01/10/2018 12:22

He should be embarrassed, not you - he was horrible, no wonder you were upset Flowers

If this is a pattern of behaviour with him could you talk to him about how nasty it is, and how much it upsets you?

FullOfJellyBeans · 01/10/2018 12:24

DH should be embarrassed by creating the incident in the first place. Is he always such a cock?

Timeforabiscuit · 01/10/2018 12:27

Now the scales have fallen, he is not to speak to you that way in public or private EVER again.

Your kids will grow up thinking thats how loving adults communicate, does that sit ok with you?

He put you in the awful position, and other people have seen it - they may not want to comment on it - but they will remember his actions.

Shoxfordian · 01/10/2018 12:28

He's acting like a knob

drinkygin · 01/10/2018 14:21

Is he like the generally-perhaps MIL and FIL didn’t want to challenge him in case they were then on the receiving end?
He sounds like an absolute dick and He is the one who should be embarrassed, not you. In future I would call him out loudly and clearly in front of others: “how DARE you speak to me like that, especially in front of your family and our children? Who the hell do you think you are?” Bullies are only bullies because they’re allowed to get away with it. He will be embarrassed to be pulled up on his shitty behaviour. Flowers

DearMrDilkington · 01/10/2018 14:25

What a fucking nasty cunt.

Please leave him, it will never get better, don't waste your life with someone like him.

blackvelvetband · 01/10/2018 14:27

Yanbu
He sounds awful
What a wanker!
If this is normal behaviour, then you absolutely must do something about it. Either he stops being a wanker, or gets help if he's got issues... if not, leave him. He sounds like a narc.

cheesefield · 01/10/2018 14:34

What a wanker. Put laxatives in his coffee.

Neshoma · 01/10/2018 15:16

He didn't need to shout but it sounded difficult to get everyone on and take their shoes off. He obviously didn't expect your leg to be there.

blackvelvetband · 01/10/2018 17:21

@Neshoma didn't you read the OP correctly? He PRETENDED to trip over her leg 🙄

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SuperElmoToTheRescue · 01/10/2018 20:25

Neshoma He pushed past me and pretended to trip over.

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LongHotSummer24715 · 01/10/2018 20:31

You were right to cry, don't feel embarrassed by a normal human reaction to nastiness. If you hadn't cried he would never have apologised and kept being mean all day.
Hopefully your tears will make him feel guilty about how he behaved and stop him from doing it again.

I have a grumpy husband who can be mean for no reason sometimes. I think I'll try crying the next time he acts like a dick!

Candlelights2345 · 01/10/2018 20:35

He was nasty. Next to me shout back at him, sod being embarrassed in front of everyone. He deserves to be called out on it.

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