Truly annoyed

[Radom]

To be truly annoyed at our daughter who is 13 today I gave up doing anything for my birthday last week so she could can a party with 11 of her friends as where she wanted it couldn’t do this week then took her shopping on Friday for her presents so today as just been at home which I thought that’s ok husband booked the weekend off as works a lot of them we said no to having a friend here as told her we wanted a family weekend at home thought we could watch films or play games etc no sitting in her bedroom on FaceTime instead all day really feels husband ha she’s wasted holidays for no reason!!

She's had her party, you've had a day out shopping together, it seems mean to not allow her to have a friend over on her birthday if that's what she wants, 13 year olds dint Beverly want a family day at home, if you didn't want to take her out you could've said yes to the friend on the condition they have dinner with you as a family and do I've family activity together at home that she gets to choose eg a game or film etc (it is her birthday). You seem annoyed about some teen girls backchatting you and you're taking that out on her.

She's 13. She's not a little girl any more. Did she ask your DH to take the weekend off or express a desire to spend the whole weekend with him?
(Apologies if you've said this but I couldn't really understand your post. No punctuation.)

I’m not taking it out on her the reason we said no to a friend because I work weekends so does my husband and last weekend was about friends . Are we are not allowed a weekend at home without her friends then because she’s a teenager and that what it’s all about plus we’d have two younger children not fair to have her friends all the time and yes I could have theirs here to which again do when can .but no I’m not spending all our time off hosting other people kids.we need downtime to.

I have the same birthday as dd2, whose 13th birthday is coming up. I fully expect the weeend to be taken up with driving her and her friends everywhere, and making sure she has a lovely time. Maybe, just maybe, dh will take me out for dinner somewhere on one of the nights. I know she will want to be with her friends, they’re all that matter to her. I’m delighted to have such a socially-adjusted child. My needs will for the time being come second. I’m fine with that, and not a martyr at all!

It’s not your dd’s fault that she has siblings. Leave them out of it op! Neither is it her fault that you work weekends! You are blaming her for being a typical 13 year old.

Husband booked it off as we try to book all birthdays off if can and thought her party would be this weekend.she is always excited when we are off that the weekends as it’s not often hence think why maybe got to me more that’s all.

I know it not her fault she’s not siblings and it’s why we try to balance and let them all have friends around when we got the time and we work weekends to provide for them thank you very much not through choice!!

And yes I get it’s what teenagers are like and yes got to suck it up more as many more years yet.But nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with her I’m not going to be made to feel guilty about that!