To be upset?

[onedayatatime29]

It might be because I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant and normally this might not bother me but its really got me down this last couple of weeks.

My birthday 2 weeks ago. I get a card and the pleasure of the cooking and cleaning that day as usual. Nothing different at all in the slightest apart from a card first thing in the morning.

I know I'm an adult and birthdays now don't mean much but I always try to make everyone feel special on their birthday. Adult or child they always get cake and presents and they get to go out for dinner to wherever they choose. I just feel a little bit forgotten.

Sorry if it sounds silly. It probably is just hormones, I've just shed a few tears over it the last 2 weeks.

Fully prepared to be told I am being unreasonable, I know myself really. Would any of you feel like this though?

Hey @onedayatatime29. I know celebrating adult birthdays is apparently frowned upon on Mumsnet, but I am with you that birthdays should be a bit special (I am in my thirties if that is of any relevance) and I would be very upset in your situation too.

Who gave you the card / who do you live with? Do you feel able to speak to them about it?

Happy belated birthday to you, by the way, and also congratulations on your pregnancy-hope goes well for the arrival of your little one.

*all goes well!

I think the best bet is to take control in future “should we go out for a meal for my birthday next week” or similar.

The thing with birthdays, especially adults, is people do put different levels of importance on them. To me my birthday is just another day so it it may not occur to me to do something for someone else’s birthday.

Thanks @pompomcat I really appreciate it

The card was from my partner, we live together with my children from a previous relationship and I'm pregnant with his child.
I'm not the type to want to ever bring up my problems to people. I'm more of a keep quiet and just overthink it on my own.

It's not about the presents or even the cake for me its just knowing that someone has put a little thought for you. If that make sense.

I never did understand why its acceptable to excited for your birthday when your a child but as soon as you reach adulthood it's not?

Do you suddenly become less important?

Op, ynbu to be a bit upset. It was my birthday 2nweeks ago to. My friends had planned a small get together at mine, nothing big just drinks and take out. They all nailed for really crappy reasons... including one was cleaning the house.

Maybe next year plan something your self, if you can't rely on others xxx

What has he done for you for previous birthdays?

A card from a partner is pretty shit unless you’ve specifically said you don’t want any gifts/fuss. Even if you’re skint he could have cooked/given you a massage for free.