To be a bit annoyed about his holiday

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I still live in same house as stbxh until all finances etc are sorted. We have 2DS aged 10 and 7.

Stbxh has a gf which he goes out and sees in the evening if not working, I’m always at home with the DC.

Anyway he recently announced that he is going away for the week with his gf next month. I reminded him that he has 2 responsibilities here and his reply was ‘well when you and the dc move out I will only see them twice a week anyway’. Aibu to be a bit annoyed by this?

I think yab a bit u as my dh goes away on lads trips etc despite having responsibilities at home. As long as you can be sure that he would look after the children if you were to go away, then I can’t really see the issue.

I think that's fine, as long as its mutual and you get to go away as well.

YANBU

I would ask him (out of earshot of the kids) why the hell he would only see them twice a week when their care will be split 50/50.

Ok, realism will kick in and 50/50 is not always best for the kids but I do think it is a perfectly reasonable starting point. Especially in the case of a friend who is going through a messy divorce and whose ex does not want custody of the kids but also doesn’t want to pay maintenance.