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Judgy people

7 replies

MrBloomsLeftVeg · 29/09/2018 23:46

Why do people believe it's ok to pass unsolicited judgement on others within their hearing?

It's happened twice this week.
I am morbidly obese, have no thyroid gland and pcos, run 3 times a week, and follow a prescribed diet. I lose weight slowly but yo yo when my medication isn't right.
Two women felt they had the right to stop and stare me down in the supermarket before having a loud conversation about how disgusting it was to look at me, how they couldn't bring themselves to leave the house if they looked like me and they'd be embarrassed to be seen food shopping at my size. (I was buying vegetables!)

Today two kids had a loud whispered conversation behind their hands about my dc (6yo ASD) in a charity shop about her 'weird flappy hands'. She was stimming but only small movements. I told them politely 'it's rude to whisper" as dd had heard and was looking tearful.

AIBU to think that we are all capable of judging on appearance but there is no need to destroy someone else's sense of worth needlessly? Neither DD or I asked for feedback from these people!

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RedPandaMama · 29/09/2018 23:53

I think people are always going to judge but I like to think it's because their own lives are just too boring and boxed in that they deem it necessary to bitch about others. This is coming from someone who was relentlessly bullied throughout primary and high school, plus by my mum at home through my teenage years. It's so so hard.

It's horrible to have to put up with it but I hope you can try and forget about it OP and get on with your life. Those people aren't worth thinking about and don't know about your difficulties. So YANBU. Sounds like you're doing a great job. Flowers

ScreamingValenta · 29/09/2018 23:54

Judging others makes them feel better about everything that's wrong in their own lives.

MrBloomsLeftVeg · 29/09/2018 23:59

Thanks @RedPandaMama . Was just having a wee pity party there. Tomorrow is a clean slate!

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catlady3 · 30/09/2018 00:05

Not unreasonable in the least and I'm completely with you. I wear glasses so when something like that happens, they slide down my nose and have to be adjusted with my middle finger.

DaniC18 · 30/09/2018 00:10

I'm sorry that happened to you and your DD today. Some people are total arses and feel the need to belittle others in order to feel better about themselves. It's horrendous and cruel. They ought to be ashamed of themselves. Try not to let them bring you and your darling DD down. You are better than them x

FastWindow · 30/09/2018 00:12

I'm guilty as hell. I have judged. Not so much overweight adults, because we all have our cross to bear. But I can't understand fat kids. I just see them and have known them since say, reception class, when they were slightly larger than the average kid. Fast forward to year 4 and these kids clearly weigh 7-8 stone. What's that about?

noego · 30/09/2018 08:48

The psychological trauma that judgemental people have is subconsciously harming them mentally.

Don't have them project that dis-ease onto you.

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