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I am right to be absolutely fuming about this?

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Nurse1980 · 29/09/2018 23:13

Collected my daughter from school last week, her TA (she has SEN) said she had been quiet in the afternoon and not herself.
Got her home and she was complaining of severe of pain in one arm and she had a bruise on her back. She told me she fell over in the playground and she told a teacher. No one had mentioned this at pick up and no accident form in her bag. I rang the school at 4pm, no answer.
Pain getting worse, took her to the GP and he sent us to hospital. X-ray done and it was fractured.
Rang school the next morning. Spoke to the head. She said she would speak to staff and ring me back. Got a phone call an hour or so later to tell me that a student teacher had witnessed the fall and said my daughter had fallen on her back and that would explain the bruise and that she also fallen on her front. Apologised for not informing me at pick up and no accident form. I told her that my daughter said she did not fall on her back and I wanted it clearing up. She said they would investigate further.
Had another phone call later that afternoon to say there had been some confusion and that the fall was unwitnessed, my daughter had told a member of staff she had hurt her arm and this member of staff did nothing. But no one has seen it. They were full of apologises. They have set up a meeting between myself and the first aid TA next week to discuss how she will be supported in school.
But that’s it, case closed!
I just don’t understand how they can tell me it was witnessed and that a member of staff saw how she fell, then a couple of hours later tell me there was no witness.
Plus no accident form. They told my daughter was perfectly happy all afternoon. Yet the day of the fall her TA told me she hadn’t been herself all afternoon Hmm
Plus she is supported to have 121 at breaktime, this obviously didn’t happen as it was unwitnessed. She had a bad accident at school last year too which again was unwitnessed despite having 121 via an ECHP.
It’s going round in circles in my head and I don’t know what to do Sad

OP posts:
brizzledrizzle · 01/10/2018 00:51

I don't know if that's true about a student not being able to supervise alone,

For insurance purposes they have to have an employee there so a student teacher will basically be supervised by a TA when the teacher isn't in the room.

moredoll · 01/10/2018 01:59

You're only meeting the TA tomorrow which all seems to have been arranged verbally. That doesn't suggest formal meeting to me. Will a minute taker be present? That seems unlikely. I see no reason why you can't record as an aide memoire. However. Just work through the bullet points noting down the TA's responses in a notebook. It will take longer but it will help to build a clear.picture.
If there's been a hospital visit should the LA not be involved automatically? It's worrying that there was no accident form.
A pp mentioned SENDIASS www.kids.org.uk/sendiass
Can you contact them? If they can't help they should be able to put you in touch with someone who can.
I would postpone the meeting with the Head until you have a clearer understanding of how best to proceed and what support is available to you.
Is your DD well enough to go to school? Apart from the physical injury this must all be very emotionally upsetting.
I hope your DD recovers well, and that you get the answers you need to find the best way forward.

MipMipMip · 02/10/2018 22:57

Hope it went well today OP.

Sethis · 02/10/2018 23:05

I am wondering why the story changed. I asked if the student teacher could ring me and tell me what she saw, as my daughters story didn’t match hers. Then a few hours later I got told that the student teacher didn’t witness it and it was a misunderstanding.

I highly doubt this is some sort of conspiracy - more likely they asked the Student Teacher "Did you see Katie fall over?" and they said "Yes" and then when asked about it in more detail, the Student Teacher probably said "Oh, THAT Katie, no, I didn't see THAT Katie fall over, I saw the other Katie fall over instead" or some variation on that theme.

However if your kid has fractures you absolutely 100% need to have very serious sit down meeting with the Head and anyone else relevant as a matter of priority, especially considering the prior incident.

cookiesandchocolate · 02/10/2018 23:12

Does your daughter have a TA for 30 hours Op? What is stated in her ECHP.
In our school, as the parents request, the 1:1 is no longer required at unsupervised times I.e lunch and break.

If you want to make a formal complaint then by all means do- head teacher or head of governors etc.

I am a 1:1 (not same child as one stated above) but not full time, at play and break, the child is unsupported but we have put adequate provisions in place to ensure they are safe.

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