Really could do with opinions here pls. OH and I have been together for 24 years, and it was our 19th wedding anniversary last week. Usually he says ‘don’t buy me anything’ and I tend just to make him a nice meal and buy a card and a little token. (I did buy him a card and a handmade china Herat with Happy Anniversary 2018’ on it. I usually get flowers or chocolates. This year, I have had nothing. Admittedly, I was on a course on the actual day so he was home before me and ge reheated himself the left over chilli I’d left in the fridge. (None was saved for me) Money is a bit tight, (2 kids at independent school, eldest DD started Uni) and we’ve a few bigger purchases (professional subscriptions/insurances) to pay for but nothing like as tight as it has been as young students years ago. I’ve suggested I’ve been a bit offended by this only to be told - as I have been recently that I’m behaving spoiled. He has said frequently that we choose to spend our money on the luxurious lifestyle choice of having children in independent education, and expecting things like anniversary presents or another example is a phone upgrade (mines smashed to shite) are further examples of me being ‘spoiled’. I’m struggling to see how my kids education makes me spoiled. AIBU to think that things that directly benefit our children shouldn’t replace nice things like an anniversary gift for me? Or should I adjust my expectations......