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To hate going to the hairdressers

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RP235 · 29/09/2018 08:42

Hi,
AIBU to hate going to the hairdressers? I have an appointment today and I'm dreading it. There are a number of reasons I don't like it.

The inane small talk for a couple of hours. I'm a mum of a 6 month old and 3 year old. I have no energy to talk. Just let me close my eyes please Wink

The colour is never quite right and always looks stripy along my parting. (Highlights).

They keep me waiting whilst dealing with other customers. It's only a small salon and if I've just got my hair washed they sometimes leave me with a towel on whilst cutting someone else's hair.

After it's been washed they really roughly dry it with the towel and inevitably it gets so tangled it takes them 15 minutes to comb through it.

Sorry to moan but it's not a relaxing experience and consequently I only have it coloured one a year. Doesn't look too bad considering. Would you change salons? I feel a bit loyal to them as I've been going there for years!
Anyone find the same?!

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Notacluewhatthisis · 29/09/2018 08:44

I don't like the hair dressers so dye and trim my own hair. It's long, so quite easy to do.

It sounds like you need to try a new salon though. They sounds a bit rubbish.

RedFin · 29/09/2018 08:45

They don't sound loyal to you. They won't notice if you never go back. Change!!

LoveAGoodChat · 29/09/2018 08:46

Op a trip to hairdressers is supposed to be enjoyable...if you are dreading it, call in and cancel (make up an excuse) and then book in with another hair salon and see if you find them a more enjoyable experience

dotdashdot · 29/09/2018 08:48

YANBU! I Absolutely hate going to the hairdressers and always have. Hate sitting in front of a mirror for so long, hate the small talk even from the ones that don't talk too much etc... I put off going as much as possible. I probably go once a year or so. I actually want to dye my hair and have a complete change of style but I can't bring myself to make an appointment as I hate the whole thing so much.

AamdC · 29/09/2018 08:48

I dont go either i cant stand the judgement , who cut your hair last , arc i also cut and dye my own hair

Xmasfairy86 · 29/09/2018 08:48

If you only go yearly they won’t notice!
It should be an enjoyable experience and a good excuse for some you time! Definitely change!

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 29/09/2018 08:49

Definitely change salons! Stripes Shock
Ask around for a good recommendation, going to the hairdresser should be a treat and relaxing. No need to talk all the time. Sometimes, like you I have no head space for chattering and will say so to my hairdresser and she's fine with that.

Why don't you cancel today and look for somewhere else?

MarthasGinYard · 29/09/2018 08:52

I'd find a better hairdresser

Oysterbabe · 29/09/2018 08:53

Your hairdresser sounds shit, go somewhere else. Mine has amazing massage chairs for when they do the hairwashing and they do a head massage at the same time. And you can have a glass of wine if you want.
I do hate looking at my stupid face for however long it takes to do the cut though.

MarthasGinYard · 29/09/2018 08:53

Also I don't think they will close down if they lose your 'yearly' appointment

StripySocksAndDocs · 29/09/2018 08:54

With those as issues, small talk excluded, a different salon is the answer. No need for loyalty at all, they don't know you at all.

I hate the going to the hairdresser. Not a bit fan of small talk sometimes, though can deal with it. But i simply hate sitting in front of a mirror for that length of time. Hate looking at myself. Yet to discover a mirrorless hairdressers though!

sexnotgender · 29/09/2018 08:54

YANBU. I hate the hairdressers, I have super curly hair and have had more shit haircuts than hot dinners.

I cut it myself now. Get loads of compliments on it.

Pickupthephone · 29/09/2018 08:55

YANBU - I absolutely hate going to the hairdresser, especially because of the inane chit-chat. I went last week and the hairdresser said ‘oh, I’ll just leave you to read hello.’ I thought brilliant, one who gets it! She stayed quiet for about 7 minutes before starting to chatter.

Another thing I really, really hate is the hard sell on obscenely overpriced products. If a salon does that to me I never go back.

That said it does sound like your salon is pretty crap - I’d try somewhere else. Your hair shouldn’t be stripey and they shouldn’t be towel drying it so roughly it gets tangled!!

Helipad · 29/09/2018 08:58

I hate the inane chats too. This is what I do now, when I sit down I ask the hair dresser if I could have couple of magazines (unless I’ve had time to pick them myself whilst waiting) and I say would you mind if I read whilst she cuts the hair. And I usually say this is my chance to catch up on celebrity gossip (or whatever). This has worked every time for few years now. I sip coffee and read and the hair dresser gets on with it.

TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup · 29/09/2018 09:00

Change salons.

I found my salon by checking out all the local ones on Facebook. I needed someone who knew how to do colour properly and despite having a salon in town that claims to be full of colour experts they had hardly any examples of that in their pictures. Whereas the one I chose had tons of colour corrections, fashion colours etc.

My hairdresser takes her cue from me whether I'm chatty or not so sometimes we have conversation the whole time and other days I say I'm really tired and we have minimal chat.

There are good hairdresser's out there.

Itchytights · 29/09/2018 09:02

It pisses me off. I find it a chore and very boring.
Needs must unless I cut it myself which would not be a great idea!!

Helipad · 29/09/2018 09:05

Sorry, should add that I also say it’s my chance to read and relax as kids aren’t hanging off my ankles. So far all the hairdressers have got the hint and stayed silent Grin

Change your salon, they sound shite. And if you don’t like the next one, try another one! It’s allowed you know. I’ve been going to my current hairdresser for 2 years but starting to feel it’s time to move on now as despite my instructions, she keeps cutting the same style over and over again.

Being forriner helps too, I think I can get away being bit blunt in my wats (do not confuse it by being rude)

hungryhippo90 · 29/09/2018 09:05

I hate the hairdressers. I hate the..... your hair is really thin... well your hair is so thin. Your hair is so thin, so thin. So thin for about 3 hours. I go to feel better, not feel like I have 3 hairs on my head.

Original poster
RP235 · 29/09/2018 09:06

Thanks for the replies. It's a shame other people feel the same.
I definitely need to change to someone better. I've been going to the same one for years as they're so close.
It's my first real time away since having my baby so I feel like I deserve a treat.
I also hate the mirror and don't want to look at my sleep deprived face more than I have to.
The towel drying my hair is awful. It gets so knotted because of the bleach and then they have to use a done a detangling spray to get a comb through it.
Unfortunately I've got the dreaded postpartum hairloss at the moment so I want to avoid any unnecessary things like making it extra tangled after the wash.

I agree with what people said. I only have it coloured once a year so they're not going to miss it. I'd go more often if I enjoyed the experience. Basically I want to actually feel relaxed and good about myself after I leave, I don't with this hairdresser!

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Oliversmumsarmy · 29/09/2018 09:08

I never go. I was traumatised because of my mother's insistence that I have a hair cut every 6 weeks.

Hate having short hair.

Last time I visited was with ds who has had very bad times at the hairdressers.

First you have to explain what ds wants which means first you have to ascertain what language they speak. Then try to rack your brain/use Google translate to explain you only want a slight trim.

Then there the arguments and the incomprehensible jabbering as they suddenly take a huge clump off ds's hair.

Ds has now joined me in boycotting hair dressers.

It is too stressful and they never do what you want

Alsonification · 29/09/2018 09:11

Yes I hate it too. I hate the horrible sink that breaks your neck, hate the small talk, hate that I have to sit there for hours cos my hair is so bloody thick. I dye my own hair so at least I don’t have to get that done. What normally happens is I get my hair cut in a short bob & then don’t go back til it’s so long I look like Morticia and get another bob again. I’m almost at that the Morticia stage now so really need to sort it.

MarthasGinYard · 29/09/2018 09:12

My hairdresser hasn't used towels for years. They use soft thick silky thick paper type wraps. No rubbing involved.

I sit with a glass of wine, magazines and enjoy it.

Full make up makes you feel so much better in those mirrors.

Find a new hairdresser you'll be wanting to go more often then I bet.

RangeRider · 29/09/2018 09:13

Could you not find someone to come to you? Avoids the mirrors & the wandering off to sort other customers...

ferrier · 29/09/2018 09:16

I don't enjoy it either and I've been to several hairdressers and can't fault them on the the job they do. Just find it boring and a waste of so much time, sitting in a chair for three hours.
So now I colour my own hair and trim it myself.

Toffeebanoffee · 29/09/2018 09:17

Trust me , some hairdressers don't enjoy the 'inane chit chat' with their customers either, its not exactly riveting talking about holidays/weather/bunnions several times a day.

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