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[newstartz]

I have a job interview today. An hour away by train. Plus twenty mins walking distance. For not much more money than I earn now, if any when you factor in train fare.
Also won't be able to pick my son up from school,my current job is five minute walk away.

I've planned it, what I'm going to wear. What time I'm leaving. Set my alarm. And I've woken up and I'm filled with dread. Just don't want to go.

I have form for planning things and not following through though. Is this my anxiety. Or is it me thinking sensibly?

Just go. Then you’ll have full information to make a decision with.

Thanks for all your replies.

I also second going and reassessing things if you get offered the job.

Go and find out about it. You don’t have to take it, but it gives you options. You’ll have time to think about it and sort your head out.

Don't put up with being harassed. Tell him you're not interested and will report to manager/hr. speak to your union.
As for getting interview practice, employers often make up the numbers with candidates they never intend to employ, often have an inside person earmarked. An interview is opportunity for both sides to see what the other is like

Don't waste your time or the interviewers if you're not going to take it. Interviewing is blinking painful and throwing someone in the mix that isn't actually serious about the job is just frustrating. Plus your ambivalence to the job will come across it interview then you might not get it and that will knock your confidence.

Agree with everything @TestingTestingWonTooFree said! Came here to post exactly that. If you are offered the job you'll be in an infinitely better position with your current HR. Both in terms of negotiating salary/hours and stopping creepy pestering. Having interviewed people before, I hate it when people don't turn up. I wouldn't worry about that. Good luck for today!

Why would you add a 2-hour commute to you day instead of tackling the issue with the man at your work? If he is harassing you, report him.

Yes your son will miss out if you add 2-hours to your journey because you can’t tackle the work situation.

Go to the interview - you can always turn down the job. Then get HR involved and get the creep to leave you the fuck alone in your current job

I hope you went. I think if you make a commitment, you stick to it. Flaking out is the worst response - for you, your mental health, resilience, ability to keep your options open and invite a bit of serendipity into your life - as well as the people you're letting down.

Sure they don't get much out of interviewing someone who isn't really keen but they've already given up their Saturday morning to interview people and, if there's one thing worse than interviewing unsitable candidates it's having your time wasted because they don't bother turning up. It's just rude.

You never know what you're going to find when you get there (or anywhere new). Having a wobble and sticking your head under the pillow is not a grown up response to uncertainty.

if you were to be offered the job, you'd have some bargaining power, if you want it, with your own company for a pay rise or some progression.

Certainly deal firmly with the colleague. It's the same thing - your passivity and lack of commitment to seeing through your own decisions - that is the probem there. You're letting life, and other people 'happen to you', then feeling bad about it. Say no and mean it.

OP, you posted about this before, right? I think you should be looking for another job, but not this one. Call the interview and pull out from today.

Dont waste yours or the new employers time. Say you're really sorry but things have changed in your current work place and are planning on staying there.
I've worked in recruitment and HR for over 10 years now, there has to be push and pull factors for a job change and there doesn't sound like any pulls, so keep hunting and a better one will come up for you!

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Don’t go. My gut instinct is a very reliable guide to any course of action and yours is telling you “no”: listen to it. If you’ve booked the day off work, spend it with your child doing something fun, then go back to work tomorrow and tell your pestered to piss off in no uncertain terms.

You’ll find something, and someone, better very soon.

@cricketmum84
Well, it's hardly fair for employers to advertise the job and interview people (cover letters take time to write, interviews take time to prepare for etc) when you already know the person you're going to hire internally. But they do it.

So employers waste interviewees' time too. Frequently.

My concern is that dropping out further strengthens OP's habit of flaking. That is not a good or healthy habit to have.

She needs to face it down, learn to make decisions and see them through. Otherwise she won't be able to do that when the new thing it is the right one for her.

I think there is a big part of needing to practice 'following through' on things, as an exercise for her and a way of forming new habits. She'll quickly find that being the reliable, decisive person gives her far more options and far more power in her life.

This job may be no use in itself but the exercise of sticking to a commitment and going through with something, despite misgivings, would be a useful experience for OP.

@Angelil maybe so. Doesn't make it right for anyone to waste each other's time though does it.

And employers doing that are wasting their own time above anyone else's!

There will always be difficult people wherever you work

Cancel it. If you’re dithering now over whether to go or not, then your head will be a wreck if they offer it you.
You’ve said the job offers no better prospects, hours, pay etc.. and you’ve applied for it purely to get away from office pest. Maybe continue looking for something better. This job, whatever your reasons for applying, is offering nothing better than what you’ve already got.
Also establish some clear boundaries with nuisance colleague.

I would go- You can say that you thought the comute would be ok in theory however when you did for your interview you realised that it would be to much every day should you be offered the job