"Women bashing" by women

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I might get flamed for this... but AIBU to be getting fed up of a woman/women being accused of effectively letting down the sisterhood for not agreeing with another woman's choice (unless, of course gender is specific to the issue)?

I agree that it’s frustrating that women seem to think we should all agree by virtue of the fact that we’re wonen.

Was there something specific that prompted this thread?

In what way? Can you be more specific please or give example?

YANBU OP.

Depends. Can't say if I agree without knowing more detail. For example, if it's an instance of an area where women are held to different standards to men and castigated for doing what men do without comment (I'm thinking of things such as effort expended on childrearing, sexual promiscuity, amount of socialising, ability to talk confidently - actually, most things now I come to think of it haha) it's always a bit depressing when other women collude in double standards.

Not sure if I know what you mean? Do you mean if you post on here as a woman but dare to have a different opinion or stick up for men (if warranted of course ) you get abused/name called?
If so, YADNBU.

Oh no, nothing like that Harolds - that would piss me off and that is usually a societal thing rather than women trying to bring down women.

It's usually over more inoccuous things like clothes, eyebrows - nothing that matters but if there is a thread to say "I really dislike the current trend for thick bushy eyebrows" a few people will agree, a few will say they love them and invariably someone will come along and say why do women have to judge women yada yada yada...

not the best example to illustrate what I mean but it's superficial stuff, nothing to do with being a woman, putting down women, being jealous etc...

My husband has opinions on ties, beards, suit styles - he's not putting down men and neither of us go around judging people and saying it to their face about stuff like this.

I guess what I am saying with this rant is that it detracts from what it really means to keep women down.

(wow that was long - time for a glass of wine)

verbeena - i haven't come across many posts where I have wanted to stick up for the man in the scenario (not because I hate men) but yes, that would be a good example, too

If men are on a forum disagreeing, they are very unlikely to be told ‘why are you being so bitchy/mean/horrible, men should support each other’.

Do you mean that women are seen as a homogenous lump, which leads to the opposite of the example above - someone would come along and say the women were being mean and generalise that women don’t support other women (regardless of the fact it’s a debate).

Yanbu, it’s worse if we dare to criticise a female celeb, guaranteed every time you get the usual, “women bringing down other women” bollocks. It’s tiresome. We freely criticise men, it’s not letting “the side” down to criticise women. Wouldn’t we be odd and boring if we never voiced our opinions. It’s not bringing down other women at all. Not all women are nice anyway, let’s not pretend otherwise.

I do see, on quite a few threads the odd poster who thinks everyone ought to support the OP because she is a woman rather than because what she is doing / saying makes sense. Is that what you mean, OP?
In which case I agree, that annoys me.

I don't think someone is automatically right because they are a woman, or automatically wrong because they are a MiL.