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No physical contact in school rule

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Marie0 · 28/09/2018 19:46

My 11 year DS recently started high school - he has ASD and is a ‘hugger’. There is a ‘no physical contact’ rule at school.

I totally get that not everyone is comfortable with any physical contact especially people with ASD who possibly have sensory issues (with touch).

But his friends are also ‘huggers’ and they are often trying to hug each other and then get told off for breaking the rules.

Each day when I collect him from school he’s sad as he can’t give or receive hugs from his friends.

Surely there’s no need to force this rule on people who clearly enjoy some physical contact?

OP posts:

MaisyPops · 29/09/2018 15:31

It’s a minefield. But having a blanket rule is sensible as it eliminates the, ‘we were only play fighting’ and the ‘she’s my friend’ cover for copping a feel.
I can see why they do this.

I'd much rather see an open dialogue about personal space, consent etc than a ban on physical contact.


ScarlettPimpernell123 · 29/09/2018 16:50

I think this is very sad - 'hugs' for your son OP


Strongmummy · 29/09/2018 17:03

The rule makes sense to me as it is black and white and therefore easily enforceable in a place with many kids. Touching, hugging etc....can make many people feel uncomfortable and boundaries need to be set, in particular so that young girls don’t feel intimidated. Also, like it or not, school is a formal work environment, so I’m unsure why hugging should be seen as appropriate. I also think it’s vital to teach kids about autonomy. I speak as someone who enjoys giving and receiving hugs. There’s a time and a place however

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