Aibu to hate "mummy's boy" comment

[NellMangel]

Today a relative commented that my 4yo DS needed toughening up. He's worried he'll be bullied at school (doesn't start school til next year).

Apparently I need to cut the apron strings. He commented that my son always wants to hold my hand and cuddle with me. He's turning into a "mummy's boy".

I'm quite pissed off. Me and DS are very close, I'm a single parent and we have a lovely relationship.

I think there's an element of misogyny to his comments. Bet it would be fine to hold a daughter's hand. Bet if DS was especially close to his dad that would be fine.

I have no idea what action he'd suggest to address this (if I wanted to) - somehow create distance between me and my son? Nice.

Just ranting really. Sick of people feeling they can judge and critique my parenting when I'm trying my fucking best!

My 14 year old still reaches for the hand - gasp - in public places! Your relative needs to do one, boys are affectionate creatures and it should be encouraged

He's just a baby at 4. Tell Mr opinions to keep his 2 cents.

Hate the phrase ‘mummies boy’ it’s an outdated homophobic & misogynistic term used by people who want boys and women to behave in a certain way.

Ignore the criticism, continue as you are and your son will grow up to be a greater person for his ability to show love and affection and express his emotions.

Your relative sounds like a bit of a front bottom TBH

This is part of the root of toxic masculinity in society and it pisses me off so much.

It sounds like you are doing a great job - the world needs more men who feel free to feel and demonstrate normal human emotions. All this "toughen up" and "be a man" crap needs to stop, especially at aged 4.

Wow judgy much, he is only 4 fgs, not 24.