AIBU?
Doing friends hair.
Creeper8 · 28/09/2018 17:32
Friend asked a few of us who could do her hair on today. I stayed quiet as I dont want to and another friend offered. However earlier she messaged me to say she might come round later so I can do her hair. (so obviously her other plans have fallen through) I really dont want to and dont want to get into a habit of her expecting me to do it. Aibu to say no?
Creeper8 · 28/09/2018 17:38
I dont think she can do it herself dont wanna give to many details just incase shes on her but its normally something
you would need someone to do.
HundredMilesAnHour · 28/09/2018 17:38
That's cheeky of her.
You can either just say no (no is a complete sentence after all) or if you're don't feel comfortable with that, just say you have plan so you can't.
Creeper8 · 28/09/2018 17:42
Just realised my op didnt make much sense but she asked a few days ago if someone could do it today. Im rubbish at saying no so I just didnt respond! hope she doesnt just show up 
NonaGrey · 28/09/2018 17:43
however earlier she messaged me to say she might come round later so I can do her hair.
Erm, what? ^^ This is not how you ask someone for a favour! I’d say no for that alone tbh!
HolesinTheSoles · 28/09/2018 17:45
Are you a hairdresser or just someone who's good at doing hair? (Not that it makes much difference). I would just say "sorry can't tonight, hope you find someone". It's very cheeky to expect your friends to do favours for you without even asking.
MrsStrowman · 28/09/2018 18:25
Just say you're busy. A friend of mine does my hair
sometimes when we're going out together, but she comes to mine I cook her dinner and provide wine and it takes her about ten to fifteen minutes, I've offered to pay and have told her it's not expected, but she says it's fine and what takes her ten minutes takes me two hours then drops out!
MissingSummer · 28/09/2018 18:28
Is it for a special occasion like a wedding or something? Or just a random night out? If it was special I might have been inclined, otherwise it's a bit odd to be honest.
Creeper8 · 28/09/2018 18:30
for a night out. though she occasionally asks for it done say every month or 6 weeks, but she normally asks several friends. Ive only done it once and dont want to again.
StoneofDestiny · 28/09/2018 19:20
Say no and if she 'just turns up', open the door looking like death and say you are not up to it. (Or get someone else to answer and say you are having a lie down as you are unwell). In future answer 'no, am busy'.
OrgyOfBarminess · 28/09/2018 19:22
Just do her hair really badly she might not ask again then
SundayGirls · 28/09/2018 19:26
Be direct (or as direct as you can be without ending the friendship 
)
Text her and say "Sorry X, I'm busy tonight so I can't do your hair. Hope you get sorted out with someone different though! Cheers, Creeper x"
The key phrase is "I can't do your hair".
She's being cheeky. She'll have to learn how to do her own even if it's not as fancy as she'd like.
2doubles · 28/09/2018 20:11
What's the big deal? Why are you so reluctant to do her hair? Me and my friends used to always do each others hair for nights out etc. Does she have a history of taking the piss?
Creeper8 · 28/09/2018 21:14
I have 4 kids and im a lone parent. I dont even have time to do my own hair. by friday im exhausted as I come home from the school run then have cleaning and cooking to do so last thing I wanna do is friends hair on top of that and will need to do my two kids hair this weekend.
good idea about doing it badly!
HolesinTheSoles · 28/09/2018 21:32
What's the big deal? Why are you so reluctant to do her hair?
It would be different if they were all getting ready to go out together but OP hadn't planned to see the woman she just announced she was coming round to have her hair done. I'd hate that!
Cblockbitch · 28/09/2018 21:36
I'm guessing it's something very time consuming like braids or cornrows. YANBU OP you have better things to be doing that benefit you and yours! tell her to get down the salon. bloody cheapskate.
Creeper8 · 28/09/2018 21:44
It is cornrows yes. which I have to do in my own childrens hair at the weekend so definitely dont want to have to do it to someone elses aswell.
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