Birthday present or holiday?

[AnnabelTheAntelope]

DH suggested we go away for our family holiday for the week when my birthday falls. He’s now said this will be my present as it cost £600 for the four of us.

Aibu to say he gets no present come his birthday next spring as he also attended the holiday?

Lighthearted... mainly.

Ooh, I've taken DH away for long weekends as a surprise for his birthday before, but as well as rather than instead of our usual holiday, the destination was always his preference rather than mine or incorporated an event I knew he'd want to go to and I had also bought tickets for, the budget for his birthday didn't include whatever it cost for me to go along too. Equally I think if you both agree to forego birthday presents this year in favour of a family trip that's fine, but it's not ok for the family holiday to come before your birthday not his. If he was sweeping you away to Paris etc for a romantic child free weekend it'd be a different circumstance I think.

YADNBU unless it's your choice of holiday that no one else was that bothered about going on.

Dcs are 3 & under 1yo, so they didn’t have any say in it.

Dh and I agreed on it. It looks fab, don’t get me wrong. Really looking forward to the holiday and he definitely didn’t pick for us. I’m buying my own presents this year and asking everyone for a card or money in it if they insist. Bah humbug !

Maybe he will surprise you on your holiday?

He's being cheap