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to have NO sympathy for my sister whatsoever??

52 replies

fireflyfairy2 · 11/06/2007 23:09

Basically my mam called today & said "Oh poor sis, she has a doc appointment this am, she isn't well yadda yadda"

"Oh, wassup with her then?"

"The poor pet, she got all burnt in the sun"

"Did she have suncream/barrier on?"

"No, sure she didn't know she was going to get burned did she?"

Welllllll forgive me for not pouring with sympathy Surely she knew the sun was splitting the stones.

I then told mam I had no sympathy for her, we all knew what the weather was like on Saturday, she lay in the sun for 4 hours in the heat, it was self inflicted, like a hangover & I never have sympathy for anyone with a hangover

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littlelapin · 12/06/2007 08:05

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lissie · 12/06/2007 08:06

the garnier one! its fab and really really natural!

SSSandy2 · 12/06/2007 08:15

But do you feel pain whilst you're lying in the sun getting burnt? I think you feel it afterwards, don't you? In the shower etc... and so maybe she didn't really notice she was getting burnt

This reminds of a woman who came to visit her boyfriend in Berlin and spent the whole visit in hospital. She'd fallen asleep under her suntan lamp at home, then when she got here, she was in such pain she went to hospital. We went to see her and she was covered in thick cream and bandaged from head to toe in the burn unit.

lizziemun · 12/06/2007 08:31

You are not being unreasonable.

As someone who has olive skin and goes brown at the hint of sunshine,i don't understand in this day and age why people sit in the sun with all the warnings on the news etc.

Even dd and i wear factor 50 when we are out and about.

SSSandy2 · 12/06/2007 08:49

I don't know how people can BEAR lying in the sunshine when it's so hot. I'm always in the shade, if at all possible. You tan in the shade too if that's what you want but the direct sunlight just kills me. Can't do it.

theressomethingaboutmarie · 12/06/2007 09:26

I have no sympathy at all! I have red hair and very pale skin and as a 70's child, got burnt to a crisp on many occasions. As an adult however, I have never had serious sunburn (the odd bit of colouring on say, my shoulders where I've missed with the suncream) because I know that it's so damned dangerous!

DeJager · 12/06/2007 09:33

Hi Octo and others, sunburn can be very serious, it can cause 3rd degree burns, it can cause blisters, with a possible skin infection, dehydration, and of course...the risk of skin cancer is always a factor.
It's insane to sit in the sun without any form of sunblock...
You sister must be in agony, the pain (your cells (skin follicles) have nerve endings and those must feel like they on fire)
Poor thing, but hopefully she won't do that again.

kslatts · 12/06/2007 09:56

I think you are being a bit unreasonable, your sister made a mistake by not putting cream on, everyone makes mistakes and I'm sure she has leant her lesson.

edam · 12/06/2007 10:07

I can see how bloody frustrating it is that she keeps doing this, daft mare. And of course she should have put sun tan lotion on.

I don't think you feel pain at the time. My little sister was horribly burnt on a beach in Crete once - I'd TOLD her to put on more lotion but she insisted she'd got once a day stuff on and it would be fine. Cue an evening spent shoving her under a tepid shower repeatedly, while she protested and got the sniffles. But there was no way I was going to spend an evening in a foreigh A&E department getting told off!

I, on the other hand, didn't even get the slightest tan, due to my fear of the sun - having lots of moles.

DeJager · 12/06/2007 10:13

One of the worse sun burns I saw was in the Alps, it was a stunning day, sunny and just gorgeous and this teenager obviously snowboarded all day, but he fried, he never realised how bad it was, but he had to go to doctor for some steroid cream.
He was like a beetroot, his mum was in tears and he looked like a panda, white eyes (goggles) and this red burnt face
He looked like something out a horror film.
Poor kid!!!

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fireflyfairy2 · 12/06/2007 10:19

Ah kslatts, we thought she had learnt her lesson last year, alas not.

She's off work today again, she has "flu like symptoms & diarrhoea" according to the chronicle [my mam]

Of course I empathise with the pain she is in, I wouldn't wish pain on anyone, but I don't think she was very sensible, or being a good example to her dd.

And Lissie... baby oil?? My goodness, does she want an onion & sage stuffed up her ar*e?

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Shrinkinglily · 12/06/2007 10:30

I got burnt on saturday

DeJager · 12/06/2007 10:30

lissie - I also use fake tan on my legs and arms...and I prefer it, no sweating or getting hot and sticky!!! LOL

My cousin and I would use cooking oil when we were younger (teenagers) and you can imagine in that hot african sun, we would cook but never cared cause it gave us great tans...(or so we kept telling ourselves!!!)
Now, I don't even sit in the sun, I prefer the shade, the sun exhausts me.

sparklesandwine · 12/06/2007 10:56

apart from that fact that i don't have time to sit and sunbathe i'm really that people still do this especially without any kind of protection!

We had an awful experiance which i'm very ashamed to admit but a couple of years ago on holiday in cornwall DS1 got his back burnt quite badly DP thought i'd put cream on and I thought DP had put cream on and it was an half an hour before either of us realised we hadn't at all but by that time it was too late the sun was so strong it had already burnt his back poor thing - i'm such a bad mother

SSSandy2 · 12/06/2007 11:50

sparkle I covered my dd in suntan lotion factor 50 in April when we were in Egypt and it was quite hot. She was in the pool and got awful suntan on her scalp on the parting. I felt really too, like what a crap mum I am not to have thought of that.

bamamama · 12/06/2007 12:33

As a fellow redhead pale skin type I too know the dangers of the sun. However, as I live on the east coast of Scotland and currently have the heating on as it's too blardly cold it is not really an issue to me.
What was it about letting pale kids burn in the 70's??

harleyd · 12/06/2007 12:37

weather is soooo good here at the minute we have been putting factor 25 on. and my back is still burnt

bamamama · 12/06/2007 12:52

thats it, rub it in (unfortunately not sunscreen). It's about 10 degrees here, rainy and miserable. Perfect ginger weather but a bit of summer would be nice..

agnesnitt · 14/06/2007 14:03

On a related note:

Is there a 'good' 12 hour sunblock out there? My daughter is going on a school trip in a couple of weeks, and the afternoon involves them rampaaging about a park being four year olds. She's not au fait enough with sublock to apply her own just yet (tries but misses too much) and the teachers are not allowed to help. Was wondering if there was anything i could get that would last her through the day. She's a pale blondie monster who goes pink at the mere hint of sun:s

Agnes

Paula1 · 14/06/2007 14:23

Hi, Parasol sunblock is excellent, it is quite expensive, comes in a smallish blue cylinder bottle and costs around £18 I think, but it is brilliant, it lasts for hours, when it goes on it is like a liquid rather than a cream, and it makes your eyes sting if it gets in so be careful

goldenwings · 14/06/2007 14:24

i would have no sympathy either fireflyfairy2 in fact i would probably sla her on the back but thats because im cruel lol.

what does yanbu mean?

chipmonkey · 14/06/2007 14:34

firefly, are you related to the people from NI I met in Portugal 3 years ago. A girl of about 15 was putting sunblock on and her mother said
"XXX, why are you putting that on, you're not even red!"
Of course, we in the South have more sense.

bookwormmum · 14/06/2007 14:41

People with sunburn though do cause pain.... to your ears as they yelp with pain....

My dp and I use factor 40 as he burns at the drop of a hat (having the fair hair/blue eyes combination - good job he's not a red head as well) so I use his bottle to economise on buying two bottles. It's daft to risk your skin these days when we know the damage the sun can do. I can remember my mum only using suntan lotion until we'd tanned in the 70s and then discarding it as we no longer 'needed it' .

Elasticwoman · 14/06/2007 14:51

Firefly, your sister is an adult and should know better. My dd age 12 has just suffered terrible sunburn + vomiting and fever after too much sun when she was in the care of her aunt. Beware of well-meaning adults looking after your dc! Yes I should have sent her better prepared, but if I'd been with her she would not have spent all day on the beach and in the sea without a tshirt over her cozzie.

I did not send her to the doctor btw and she had no time off school

juicychops · 14/06/2007 14:53

When i was 16 i fell asleep in my dad's garden and got really badly burnt on my face. I was lobster colour for a week before it went brown and i was in bed for 2 days as i had terrible sun stroke. It damaged the skin on the tops of my cheeks under my eyes and now if im in the sun that is the first bit to get sore and red so i make sure i always wear sun lotion especially on my face

As someone else said, we have all done it im sure, but after being badly burnt once i would be even more stupid to let it happen again!!

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