To just want someone to nod and smile...

[ChristinaMarlowe]

That's all really - light hearted and seeking solidarity.

When you're bone tired and DH/DP wants sex! Just that can't be botheredness. I get up at 6am, get DD6 ready for sch save for

Aaand then you post early. Could it get any better?!

Get DD6 ready for school save for face wash and teeth to be done after breakfast? Hour before the gates open and we live right on the doorstep of the primary school.
Leave for work to start at 8. Work 8 hours in school myself, pastoral role.
Get home at 5, collect DD and do Mum stuff, put her to bed at 7.30.
House stuff and any work emails.. Wine/shower/book for 40 mind then DH gets in at 10.30 (Chef).

I'm tired. Yes we want another DC and yes I find him desirable but FFS. Do all men do the "light hearted" comments about lack of sex?! I'd there any bigger turn off in existence than little "hokey" hints.

Not envy.

Tell me I'm not alone here. He's pretty much perfect otherwise. We're both 37.

Sorry. Excuse the many auto-correct fails!

You are not alone.

It is a regular sore point in our house. To be very cliche, I am just tooooo tired.

And there is more to a relationship.

My DH makes light-hearted comments about our supposed lack of sex... dunno what he's on about though as we're DTD 4 times a week! We're TTC so I've got the dates on my phone. Maybe it's their go to comment when they want to guilt trip us? lol

Keeping in mind this is lighhearted
My DH could sympathise with you. I'm thinking of slipping some blue pills in his tea.

Apart from 5min whip round re scattered toy carnage, leave house stuff to weekend. And work emails at home? No, just no. You do that & people start expecting it: and take the p.

I find just before bed the worst possible time for sex. I’m always tired and ready for sleep then and totally not up for it. We get on much better when we seize the opportunity early in the evening or on weekend mornings. But I can see how that would be hard when you have kids and work different shifts! So I don’t know what the solution is for you but YANBU

Ugh, so glad you know where I'm coming from @NoMudNoLotus and @Charm23 - it's universal yet it's see I fly taboo these days, how the Jeff did that happen?!

Thanks @CSIblonde - I hate to be the cliche but I "do it for the kids" as opposed to being super diligent but you're totally right, it becomes the norm.

Yes @AuntBeastie it's a chore when it shouldn't be. I do 8-4 plus childcare collection and he drops off at 8.45 (naps or whatever, lately also washing-up-phobic) and starts work at 12ish. He's home 10.30 and before I can even express an interest the quips (Seth Mcpharlane voice optional) start. Get off me.

Must dash. Easier to comply than not and he's out of the shower. Kills the fun and passion though, doesn't it? I've spelt that out but apparently knowing it is killing any spontaneouty (?! Spell check ps) is irrelevant for him

It sounds like he is in bed in the mornings while you are running around getting everything done. Tell him to help get your child ready and you will be less tired and might be more interested.