Turning 41

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On Monday I turn 41. I am dreading being 41! Last year I ran a half marathon on my 40th birthday, shortly after I heard I'd got a place in the London Marathon, trained hard, raised thousands for charity and generally felt pretty awesome about being 40!

Since then I've suffered with a back injury, I've not run for 4 months. I have a post 3 babies bowel issue that's making me feel rubbish and the lack of exercise means my pelvic floor is not going great. I've put on a stone, I'm not managing a mental health problem I have AT ALL and my marriage is pretty shit right now.

AIBU to want yo stay being 40 because turning 40 was good, turning 41 sucks. How can I get out of this rut??

Is there no exercise you can do? What about walking? You must be really missing it and what about pelvic floor exercises? Are they out of the question with what you have? I think you need to change your negative thought process atm. You’re not in a rut, you have more control than you realise. Things might not be as good as they was last year but all is not lost!

Congrats on the marathon! Can you set yourself some goals? Fitness goals or other types of goals/achievements? It seems like you have lost your mojo a bit, but you can get it back. Time to set a new goal to work towards.

Sorry about the mental health issue and the marriage being shit though. That is hard .

I have just turned 45. That means I am nearer to 50 than 40, now that really sucks.

Remaining life expectancy of a woman aged 40-44 is another 44 years - your whole life to live over again. And that's just an average, you could have longer than that. So try to remember, there is a future to look forward to. I had a bad time in my early 40s, but that's well past me, and life is fuller of friends and new opportunities than it's ever been.

At the moment, physical and mental health and your marriage are going wrong, and that's a lot of problems to sort at once. Whether you decide to chip away at all three, or work hard on one of them, try to keep a rudimentary diary so you can look back and see that you've made progress.