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Original poster

To specify where my school bake cakes go?

33 replies

Giriffraff · 26/09/2018 17:03

My daughter LOVES baking. She is always making things. Each year in the bake sale we make awesome cakes and she is super proud of them.

Every year rather than them going to the bake sale and DD being able to sell her cakes to her friends they are given to the parents at the cake morning.

DD is always sad. I tell her that she should be proud that her cakes are so lovely that they want them to be at the parents morning but she really wants her friends to have them.

AIBU to say to the teacher when i hand them over 'can you please make sure DD gets to sell these at lunchtime, and they don't go to the parents tea morning' ?

OP posts:
Alicatz66 · 26/09/2018 17:05

YANBU .. it would be nice for her to share them with her friends .. I'm sure it won't be a problem .. the parents can have the reject flat cakes !! 😂

RagamuffinCat · 26/09/2018 17:08

Could you make a batch to share with her friends another time? Perhaps you could take them to the playground after school for her to give out?

Original poster
Giriffraff · 26/09/2018 17:13

I have 3 kids in primary so am already making A LOT of cakes. I really haven't the time or money to make anymore.

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DanglyBangly · 26/09/2018 17:14

Think it’s a perfectly reasonable request and I’m sure the teacher will understand if you explain why.

whatnametouse · 26/09/2018 17:15

Can you say they are not ready / you forgot them in the rush that morning and bring them in at lunchtime for her to sell?

howabout · 26/09/2018 17:27

YANBU

HardofCleaning · 26/09/2018 17:36

I thought you were going to have a ridiculous request but that's perfectly reasonable.

Lalliella · 26/09/2018 17:43

YADNBU and they ABVVU to snaffle the best cakes for the adults. Shocking behaviour. Your poor DD.

Original poster
Giriffraff · 26/09/2018 17:52

I'm so glad people seem to agree. I most definitely will request she keeps them to sell. Thankyou

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Puppywithattitude · 26/09/2018 17:56

I stopped baking for school cake sales when I happened to notice on more than one occasion they didn't make it out of the staff room.

RagamuffinCat · 26/09/2018 17:57

I would definitely ask for her to be able to sell them to her class then!

jadfiewahnds · 26/09/2018 17:57

Sigh
From the title I thought you were going to be totally unreasonable and I was prepared to do my best eye roll n' tut combo

YANBU at all. Spoilsport Grin

formerbabe · 26/09/2018 18:04

I agree that it's a reasonable request.

MoonageDaydreamz · 26/09/2018 18:28

I find it really shocking that parents / kids go to the effort of baking to raise money for the school for the teachers / volunteers to scoff the best ones beforehand.

MoonageDaydreamz · 26/09/2018 18:29

So no, of course, Yanbu, I'd be really pissed off if my cakes were never actually sold.

Enko · 26/09/2018 18:52

I just used to arrive before the end of school with the cakes to put directly onto the " sale" table with a tinkly " oops I forgot this morning" Problem solved for any saving cakes

Leeds2 · 26/09/2018 19:01

Are parents paying for the cakes they get to eat, or are they freebies? Even if they pay, I don't think YABU if your DD wants to sell her cakes to her friends.
Re the best cakes ending up in the staffroom, I guess the teachers may have paid for them. At the school where I volunteer, the leftovers go to the staffroom, for free, as a means of getting rid of them. I noticed last time that some went to after school club, and did wonder how they would decide which child got a cake and which didn't!

Bloodyfucksake · 26/09/2018 19:03

To the posters implying teachers are stealing cakes - most of us wouldn't touch the home made cakes because we spend all day with the kids and see what they do with their hands.

In the OP, she states that its given to PARENTS. Not kept in the staff room.

I love teaching but I'm on my last nerve with parents.

garethsouthgatesmrs · 26/09/2018 19:04

I am a teacher and we definitely do pay for the cakes for a charity cake sale.

RubiksQueen · 26/09/2018 19:06

I sort of think it doesn't matter if the parents do pay or not, it's not fair that the parents get the best cakes and the kids get the rest.

marriageoftrueminds · 26/09/2018 19:17

Another teacher confirming we pay for cakes at the bake sale, would never expect to get them free. I also contributed my own cakes quite often and so do other teachers. Occasionally if there are any cakes left after the cake sale, and parents don’t want to take them home, I’ve known them to be gifted to the staff room.

I’ve never heard of a parents’ free cake morning before the cake sale either?! Surely that’s counter-productive as parents are less likely to buy cakes later if they’ve been able to scoff them in the morning?!

marriageoftrueminds · 26/09/2018 19:21

But sorry I forgot to answer your question. YANBU, if you just nicely explain to the teacher when you hand over the cakes I’m sure she’ll be happy to help.

UnleashTheBulsara · 26/09/2018 19:27

If it's any consolation, I have often made confectionery especially for the teachers, because I luffs them.

Naturally I was never present to see but apparently they fell on them like wolves.

I do make stuff for ds to take in for general school fairs, but we've also made stuff for ds to sell in the classroom at break when they've been doing a separate fundraiser. Maybe your dd could do something like that? And yes, hold onto them until the last minute (but not so last minute that the teachers don't have a chance to buy any first).

TidyDancer · 26/09/2018 19:27

I think I would do what others have suggested and turn up at lunchtime to give the cakes to your DD to avoid them going to the parents.

sunnyshowers · 26/09/2018 20:25

our teachers always pay...and actually way over the odds. I m not a teacher but the ones I 've met are amazingly generous with time and money