AIBU To think that my 17 year old high functioning autistic ds is being decrimated against due to disability

[GoGoGirl54321]

My 17 year old ds has just re-joint his old am-dram after having a year off. They have just done the audition rounds for their latest production. My son decided that he wanted to try out for a part. I so happen to be a member of the same group as well, so watched the auditions. I thought his audition was good (don’t get me wrong it wasn’t earth changing but he was definitely no wrost then anyone else).Once the cast list was reviled it transpired that every member that audition for a main part got one apart from my son.

AIBU to think that this could be due to my sons autism (high functioning) and that the committee don’t trust him. I know a lot of members are either related or work with autistic kids that are fairly severe and I can’t help but think they see my son (who is extremely mature and independent) in the same light and have a pre-conceived idea about the disability.

Let me know your thoughts

How could everyone get a main part? Did only one person audition for each role?

(Possible missing the point)

Surely there are only a finite number of parts to go round. It is more likely to be the year off and that he wasn’t outstanding.

I think that the posters having a go at the OP for how she describes her DS need to have a word with themselves. This is not the place.

I think this would need to happen more than once for it to be convincing this was discrimination.

Why would he get a part if he hadn't been there for the last year?

Did you speak to anyone about it before?
Have you actually asked any of the panel/deciders, since?

Yes, I agree with Geraldine and others.
There were wore people auditioning than parts - all the parts were filled. Someone was not going to get a part - was it because he had been away for a year, because the others were better than him, because of discrimination?
No way of knowing until the next show is cast. if the same thing happens again then it would look like discrimination, but you are BVU to suggest discrimination on a single example.

I have 2 dc with autism...this is a common theam running through their lives ,to never getting invited to a birthday party....despite have a large one every year ,to not even able to get a school place ,because heads have to many with Sen in one class already ,or don't feel they can meet his needs ...blah blah blah...our country discriminates against people with autism,in my experience...3 schools with places outright refused him.another 2 faffed and made excuses,2 more didn't reply once they knew he had autism...good luck with your son op...it cheered me to read he was out there partaking in what life has to offer,hope you get it sorted

Yes, feedback should be an option, OP, as a previous poster mentioned. What better way for him to see which areas could be improved (just like anyone else in that scenario) and to come back to the next audition firing and ready to get that part?! Good luck for the next one! 👍🍀👍

Perhaps they chose to put on a play with the correct number of parts for members. Then when your ds came along it put a bit of a spanner in it. Encourage him to help out with back stage. If you’re into am dram, you could also get him to learn a soliloquy or put on a little 5 / 10 minute short play of your own with him if the group would allow it. Perhaps as a warm up for the show. That way if he drops out it will have no impact on the group. But if he stays he has also proved himself. And have a serious talk with the organisers and with your ds. If this is about his attitude there, say for example he has big opinions about how his / other parts should be played and it doesn’t fit with the group, he needs to work on his people skills a bit.

If there are not enough parts there are not enough parts.

Maybe priority was given to loyal members. Imagine a mn post where a poster says My Ds Has been loyal to the group and a rejoiner waltzes in and gets a part straightaway.

Does your DS's bluntness disrupt rehearsals? Eg. does he criticise other actors and what they are doing or the directors etc. If so maybe it is not worth the hassle for people doing things on a voluntary basis and for fun.

He wasn’t involved for some time and his audition was average, I assume that the parts went to the kids who have been doing chorus for years and now have their time.

Also - in the politest way possible I’m autistic and growing up I was very rude. Particularly when My ASD was teamed with being a hormonal teenage know-it-all.
I burned bridges, I criticised people even though I was trying to help people and I suffered meltdowns when things were too overwhelming for me, hiding under tables etc.
None of those things were my fault as such but I seriously ruined a lot of things for people around be both adults organising activities and young people participating in them with me. I had to learn to manage social situations and manners and boundaries and norms and it took me longer than my peers.
Is your D.C. like this at all?