To think my partner shouldn't just disappear?

[natalier33]

We have 2 kids together (1 biologically who is 3)
We argue and I'm never sure if he is with me for me or kids.
Anyway we had a falling out and he went and stayed with his parents for 2 weeks.
He has did this a few times before and occasionally on nights if he goes out.
Surely a adult man should talk through his problems not run to his parents?
He was still here daily seeing the kids but then either went to work or went back to his parents
Is this normal?

What do you argue about? Is it always one of you who starts or 6 of one, half a dozen of the other?

Can you still down and have a rational conversation when you're both calm?

What do you want to do?

Stupid things.
He is always miserable and huffy.
We never do anything together anymore and he always seems fed up.

Stop wasting your time and end it. Tell him he now lives with mummy permanently.

No, he shouldn't just disappear. Relationships require a number of fundamentals to be in place if they are to work. One of the most important of these, IMHO, is being able to feel secure in the relationship. Partners who disappear when the going gets tough are basically telling you that you can't rely on them, that you have no security. Personally, my partner would not do that to me twice.

Tell him if he's got a problem he needs to talk to you about if and next time he goes running to his mums to fucking stay there and don't bother coming back.

Of course, when he's at his mums, you don't really know where he is in the evenings do you?