AIBU?
To be fed up with "try not to worry about it"?
LivinLaVidaLoki · 24/09/2018 06:53
Long story short, over the last year and a bit I've suffered with a series of medical problems. Such as awful fatigue, bladder problems (keep needing to wee like I've an infection but no infection) eye pain, random aches and pains, among others.
My gp always gives me pills to treat the symptoms and sends me packing.
Earlier this year I had a blackout and hit referred to a clinic who carried out some cardiac tests (there were no preceding symptoms to the blackout which can indicate an underlying problem) they also referred me to a neurologist because of the position my body was in when it happened.
The cardiac tests showed low blood pressure but generally fine.
The neurologist did a few tests and took a medical history and has now made me an appointment for an MRI to rule out MS.
I feel really scared. I don't know why but all my life I've had a random fear that one day I'll have my brain scanned and they'll find something really wrong. I know it's silly but I'm actually quite frightened inside.
Probably not helped by The neurologist ending the consultation with "it could well be nothing but I have thought that with others before now and turned out to be wrong, so I wouldn't be doing my job properly if I didn't do this test".
Dh just keeps telling me to try not to worry and so do my friends but it's so hard not to. Am I being ridiculous?
TwoGinScentedTears · 24/09/2018 07:08
No, you're not being ridiculous at all.
Having had a serious health problem, scanxiety is a real thing. I did develop the mantra that Im not going to worry until there's something to worry about, but it was hard to believe it and actually live it.
But, it's be better to face whats wrong IF there is something wrong.
Hope it's good news
Parisbun · 24/09/2018 09:54
Faced with a similar event I decided to just let it happen since I had no idea of all the possible outcomes so couldn't worry about them all. I might miss one thing to worry about since I was obsessing about another thing. Well it made sense to me anyway and helped me get through it all.
I projected myself forward and concentrated on the after event which also kept my mind busy.
Your consultant is a bit of a knob though. Fancy telling you of his own shortcomings. Way to make you feel safe in his hands.
LivinLaVidaLoki · 27/09/2018 07:50
Thanks all.
They've now bought it forward a week so here's to just getting it over with....
HardofCleaning · 27/09/2018 08:42
Good luck OP of course YANBU. Obviously worrying doesn't help but it's not like you can switch it off and it can kind of feel dismissive when people say 'just don't worry'. Sometimes it's better to acknowledge that you are worried and talk about it.
Catastic · 27/09/2018 10:05
Not even remotely ridiculous. Those tests are stressful and "try not to worry about it" is really terrible advice. It's often said by people when they can't think of anything else to say, so not really malicious, just a bit unthinking.
I agree with Hardofcleaning in that it can help to talk about it.
You could talk about it on here. I'll bet there are plenty of us who would sympathise/empathise.
AnoukSpirit · 27/09/2018 21:18
I think I'd feel the same as you. It's easy for people to say "try not to worry" when it's not them it's happening to!
Good luck with it.
Lilyhatesjaz · 27/09/2018 22:58
I hope all goes well for you. I suggest you take some music for the mri scan as it really helps to relax and also if they say the next bit will be 5 minutes you know that's a song and a half.
LivinLaVidaLoki · 28/09/2018 06:41
firstdegree it's at 8 this morning.
I'm taking x and y by Coldplay to listen to so I don't jig about singing along.
I am worried but it's only because it's my brain. I just keep thinking there could be something wrong with my brain.
LivinLaVidaLoki · 28/09/2018 06:41
And thank you everyone for helping me acknowledge that it's ok to worry.
Toddlerteaplease · 28/09/2018 06:44
I had an MRI as a healthy volunteer and it picked up that I Had MS. If you have got it. It's really not the end of the world. The treatments are really good. I still work full time as a nurse. It has been hard at times but you get through it. The absolute worst thin is actually other people las reaction when you say you've got it.
Chrisinthemorning · 28/09/2018 06:52
Good luck for the scan
For your bladder , have you been tested for Chronic UTI?
www.chronicutiinfo.com
mimibunz · 28/09/2018 06:54
Reading the OP reminded me of a friend with the same symptoms who had coeliacs disease. Especially the fainting and fatigue. Good luck, OP!!
LiquoricePickle · 28/09/2018 14:48
Hope everything is well and that you get any help you need.
pickleface · 28/09/2018 14:53
Have you thought of fibromyalgia? That often entails bladder problems along with the pains and blackouts. X
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