Genuinely can't tell if I'm being totally overprotective/ precious here or whether my friend was.
DD was supposed to have a playdate at the park with a school friend today. For background, we know the parents pretty well, our kids are in the same class, the other girl has been struggling to make friends at school and having a hard time and the mother has been very heavily pushing for a playdate with DD.
in the morning we were texting about arrangements, she mentions that her DH is ill in bed. Then she texts to say that her DD has a low fever, likely the same thing has her DH but will "probably rally" for the afternoon. I texted back to say that if her DD was ill, I would rather reschedule as my DH is away all next week, I have 3 kids including a baby, we have just got through one bout of illness that has gone through the whole family and I really couldn't face coping with another bout of illness so soon afterwards, plus my mum is staying, she is elderly and prone to chest infections so I would rather not take the risk. I apologised profusely for disappointing her DD and said we would do the playdate next Saturday. She then texted me three more times saying that her DD was actually fine, that they would have more contact with each other at school so it was pointless to cancel/ that her DD would be incredilby disappointed etc etc. I kept saying, I'm sorry, I would rather reschedule and started to get annoyed with what I saw as guilt mongering and pressurising. In the end she sent me a really snotty text saying that her DD was very very disappointed and upset, and it was really wrong of me to cancel etc.
I feel quite put out by this. I admit that I am quite overly cautious about illness, but it is just so incredibly disruptive even when they all get a bad cold with a temperature. The baby stops sleeping, they all end up missing school/ I have to take time off work etc etc. WIBU not to want this or should I have just accepted it as a normal part of childhood and stepped up so as not to disappoint her DD who is feeling upset and isolated at school?