To feel pushed out

[Grammarist]

I've posted a little bit about this situation before.

I'm in a group of friends and I've been feeling steadily pushed out, for various reasons. Over the past few months, they've all started going to somewhere that I can't afford to go to (or get to) and it's really starting to affect any meet ups that we can have.

Every time I try to organise a meet-up or a play date/coffee they are busy at this place and their whole lives now revolve around this place. It's lovely that they're enjoying themselves but I've been left behind.

It's almost cultish, the way they talk about this place, and the best way that I can describe their behaviour is like a clique at school. They almost whisper things about it when they're around me. It's very very annoying!

Am I BU to be massively pissed off that I now don't factor at all into their plans? I'm thinking of cutting my losses and starting again but I'll be losing some long friendships :(

What’s the place ???

It sucks when you're the odd one out in a group. If you can't get to/afford where they're going it sounds as if you either live further away, or have less money than the rest of them. Are there any individuals in the group you can maintain a one to one friendship with if the group dynamic isn't working any more?

I don't want to say what the places is as it's incredibly specific to where I live. It's very much a lifestyle place and is all-encompassing.

I've tried to keep up separate friendships but they're there pretty much every day. It's impossible :(

Is there any one particular person you are closer to in the group you can confide in about the situation ?

I guess eventually someone will get bored of the place, if you keep casually in touch maybe the friendship will pick up then. Sucks in the meantime though, is there anywhere else you can get to know people?

I tried confiding a little but she told the others and they think I'm being silly. I'm looking at other options like playgroups

What kinds of things go on at this magical place?!

I'm dying to know - is it a members' club or something with a hefty annual subscription and a schedule of expensive events?

A spa or a gym?

They're clearly enjoying feeling exclusive at your expense.

I would just drop out of all conversations, leave any Whatsapp group chats.

They may get bored and come back but don't hope for it.

Not sure why people are pestering OP to reveal the place. OP thinks it's outing and we should respect that.

It's very outing, so I'm not revealing.

I've snoozed a lot of the FB conversations about the place and it's been 'interesting' to see just how quiet my FB/phone is.

Nothing.
Not a single damn thing.

Pretty sure they're not hibernating so they're clearly lording it up at said place.

Going to get me a new social life...