To take the new job?

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More of a wwyd. But posted here for hopefully more answers

So.... I need your help. I don't have any friends to ask in real life so just wanted to see what you guys would do.

I'm 28. Single mum to a nine year old boy. Very good terms with his dad, and have a supportive family on my side and his to help out if needed.

I've work at a particular place for 12 years. Always enjoyed it and it's all I've ever known. But the last two years have been dreadful. There has been .... well I would go as far to say as bullying going on towards me for reasons I won't go into. The boss is fully aware but it's all done quite sneakily so nothing can be proven. So at the moment I really dread going into work some days. When it's good it's really ok, slightly boring but only the same as any other job. But I feel like I'm stuck in a rut. Do the same things and I'm never going to get to meet anyone living and working so locally in a tiny town.
However, I can take and pick my son up from school everyday. Up till now only work the odd Saturday. It takes me around five minutes to walk there.

I have been offered another job, which is an hour train away, so that adds train fare and more time away from home. Will most likely be the same number of hours, maybe slightly more, and probably won't be able to pick my son up from school most weekdays.

Just wanted to see what you guys would go for. A big change. Or suck up the job that's on my doorstep

What are the career prospects like for the new job?

Is the money side feasible, given commuting costs? What about pensions?

What would the after school care arrangement be for DS?

Both of the jobs are in retail. So similar in that respect. I've not wanted to further my career in the place I'm in now, as you basically have to hand your arse on a plate to them, work till half nine weekends etc, and that's not a route I'd want to go down with my son as young as he is. I'm guessing this new job will be the same.

I may be able to pick up a few more hours than what I currently, work. But I'm guessing it'll be around 20-30 pound extra in train fare.

They are both only part time jobs.

My parents live very locally to my sons school so could help no problem. Also his dad could pick him up some days a week.

For a retail job, I don’t see the attraction in having to get a train there and back. Plus, if you finish late or start early, will there be regular trains?

For a retail job, I don’t see the attraction in having to get a train there and back. Plus, if you finish late or start early, will there be regular trains?

My availability is so that I'm able to get trains there and back home. But yes it adds an extra two hours onto a working day. However it does get me 'out' of my tiny town .

The current job is a kind of low end small supermarket.

The new job is a pharmacy led health and beauty retailer.

I wouldn’t swap what you have now for an hour’s commute and paying more for the privilege.

As you work part time, could you train to get a better job?

Op, I have just accepted a new job as my workplace has similar bullying, my mental health and well-being more important than a job. Yr boy is older than mine, but I have similar concerns re being home.

You have family and people who love him around, that will help him adjust to the changes. Your well-being can only improve in new job, even with travel, who knows what might come available in future?
Good luck
Take the leap of faith,
The unknown is always scary
But I bet you will be fine

You really sound like you want to try the new job OP.

I wouldn't do an hour's commute for a retail job. Not personally worth it for me.

I'd keep looking for something else. Could you transfer in your current employer?

I think in your circumstances and given the new job, I would take it. When you leave advise the boss of your current job the reasons that have contributed.

Yes I do really want to take it if only it was a little bit closer ....

Is there any chance of getting something closer to home?

I wouldn't take a part-time job with that kind of commute. However, I would be actively looking for other jobs nearby. 12 years experience in one place is a lot, and you definitely don't have to put up with an unpleasant work environment.

I have been looking for things closer to home. This is the only place that's offered me anything. But I havnt been looking long.

If I turn this new job down, do you think it will go against me when applying for the same place closer to me?

For a non-career type job I wouldn't do that commute and make those sacrifices. Are there no other opportunities in retail closer?

Ask if they'd consider employing you more locally (boots?)

@monkeysox that would be perfect. And I'd like to think once I worked for the company,if a position closer to home came up, I'd very easily get it?

Approach them and explain, ask if you could take a similar suitable position when one comes up nearer home?

An hours journey could turn into 2 hours if there are leaves on the lube or delays, so I wouldn’t bother. Keep looking and be brave at work. Try and rise above the bullies.