Feeling really flat AIBU?

[Zofloramummy]

So far this year I have ended a three year relationship with a narcissistic bully in April.

I got sacked in August from a career I’ve been in for over 20 years.

I found another job in a different field entirely within 3 weeks and started this sept (school based).

I’ve come off AD’s that I had been on for a year in May.

I’ve been coping really well, been positive and motivated. But this last week I’ve just felt so tired, the housework has slipped and I just have no get up and go. Im fine in work although it’s very different from what I am used to!!

I’m worried about money as this job is significantly less paid and I’ve applied for universal credit, I’m mortgaged so get less help than if I was renting. I think I’m going to have very little left to allow for birthdays, Christmas, car problems etc and it’s a concern.

But I’m worried that I feel so flat and tired. Is this a normal reaction after all of the stress now that I seem to have everything back under control? I’m now employed, I’m not in a horrible relationship, I’m ok! So why do I feel like this?

You've only been in the new job 2-3 weeks. I reckon that any new job is stressful for the first 6 weeks, no matter how much you were looking forward to it. So that will be taking it out of you.

Even good changes are a disruption and need getting used to. You've also ended a relationship. And you're coping with these major life events without ADs. It's hard work.

So continue to congratulate yourself, concentrate on being nice to yourself, and don't let yourself worry about the future till after October 14th.

Thanks, I’m wondering if I’ve got through the summer on adrenaline and now I’m having a bit of a crash. I am really enjoying my new job. I really want to be one of those people who have got their shit together! I am trying to be more organised and I can plan to do lists but I’m struggling with the initiation but where I actually do what I’ve got planned!!

Sometimes when you are under stress you keep going, then 'collapse' when the stress is removed.
I think its because when you know you are stressed but have no choice but to get on with it, you don't notice how run down you feel. See your GP and get checked for anemia, and make sure you are topping up your vitamins.

I always get a bit flat this time of year- think it's the change in weather tbh. You've had a lot to deal with this year. Don't beat yourself up, but do monitor your feelings so you know to up your tablets if you start to feel worse, but hopefully this is just a blip

I came off them gradually but completely stopped in May (under medical advice).

Good point about the vitamins and I have some I just haven’t been taking them!

I need to go to the GP anyway as I’ve got an infected cyst and probably need AB’s