Competitive dieting ?

[4seasons]

I’ve put on 3 stones in weight over the last 10 years .... menopause and thyroid problems haven’t helped. Neither has eating and drinking too much ! So , 4 months ago I got my head in the right place and got down to a weight loss plan . It’s been really difficult because my DH loves going out to eat / weekends away etc. and I don’t want to miss out by eating lettuce leaves whilst he eats a lovely curry or steak. My weight loss has been slow but steady .... about a pound loss per week . So , I’m feeling good about myself and determined to continue until I reach my target weight. The downside of all this is that my DH seems to be competing to see if he can lose more weight than me . He’s not particularly overweight, maybe half a stone or so. He’s now lost more weight than me . This is going to sound pathetic but I am secretly furious about it . It’s almost as if he wants to “ beat “ me to show me how easy it should be to lose weight . Can anyone explain why this is irritating me so much ? I actually feel jealous of his weight loss and keep thinking how scraggy he’s looking. I’ve also considered slathering butter onto his vegetables in secret ( just kidding .... I think ). I appreciate his support with my dieting ... although it actually is beginning to feel like control. I’m so ratty about this issue I can’t believe myself . What is the matter with me ?

Nothing is the matter. I get you 100%.

Do you dislike him anyway?

Nothing the matter with you. Men lose weight faster than women do and I'm sure that's an established fact.

I would ask him why he feels the need to compete with you? That's what I'd do if my husband took it into his head to compete with me over something that was important for my health with the likely outcome to derail or distract me.

I calorie-count, that way I get to cherry-pick the foods I want to eat most and it's amazing how selective you become. For me it's a balance between macros and delight.

My DH does this too. He’s very active and he just needs to cut out snacking and the weight drops off. I used to tell him my weight loss and he would kind of smirk as if it was anon event. I just don’t tell him if I’m trying to lose weight and don’t mention any loss. He never notices either.

He's being a prick. Men lose weight quicker and more easily. It's a hard slog once you've gone through the Menopause.

I get where you’re coming from, my DH is similar to this, always turning things into a competition and “copying” me.
If it makes you feel any better at all, women hold on to fat whereas men will drop it stupidly fast. You’re doing great, let him carry on with his little competition. He’ll get bored and move on to something new soon enough. Well done on your weight loss! I agree with a PP, calorie counting is what helped me lose almost 2 stone, no food is off limits as long as I stay within my allowed calories.