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Snapchat... AIBU?

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Blanca123 · 23/09/2018 08:41

Me and my boyfriend have gone through normal relationship ups and downs and have refrained from getting social media accounts as we both like our privacy but last year we broke up for approx 4 months in that time my boyfriend downloaded Snapchat we’ve since then got back together as he had Snapchat I downloaded it also but he refuses to have me as a friend on his Snapchat, this baffles me as I feel separate from this part of his day to day life as he Snapchats everything, I think when you are in a relationship you share everything with your partner and include them in every aspect of your life but Snapchat is the one thing he won’t include me in.... Am I being paranoid in thinking he maybe cheats on me on there or just portrays a different life than the one we have together on there hence why he doesn’t want me on there? When I’ve asked him why he won’t have me in there he makes me feel quite silly for thinking about it in the way I do and brushes it off to him thinking I just shouldn’t be on his friends list... But that’s it, he will never elaborate.... Please help as I don’t know if I’m being paranoid

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Sugarhunnyicedtea · 23/09/2018 08:45

I don't have dh on my Facebook, Twitter, instagram or Snapchat. I don't feel I need to. Are you worried he's hiding something?

Buzzlightyearsbumchin · 23/09/2018 08:45

I think when you are in a relationship you share everything with your partner and include them in every aspect of your life

I think this is quite an unhealthy attitude to have tbh.

He could add you on Snapchat and filter what he sends you on there which would look less suspicious if something was going on I guess.

Maybe he wants something that is just for him, given you want to be included in everything, it's probably a bit stifling for him.

Popc0rn · 23/09/2018 08:54

I don't have my boyfriend on every social media, but if he asked I'd add him, as I have nothing to hide.

I think it's odd he won't add you, and yes I'd feel paranoid if I was you, especially as he uses it all the time.

Blanca123 · 23/09/2018 09:44

Yh I guess I just feel like it’s strange as he has all of his friends and family on there and will back and forth with them but then I’m not included so it feels weird because we live together we share so many things but he won’t allow me on this

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Emmageddon · 23/09/2018 09:47

Snapchat is just like sending photo texts to friends - do you expect him to include you in every text he sends? I find Snapchat a bit dull to be honest, but it's a good way to keep in touch without clogging up your phone with photos.

Do you know who he is Snapchatting with? Unless he's sending an endless stream of dick pics I don't think you should be concerned. Wanting to be involved in every aspect of his life is over the top.

FuckItPassMeTheWine · 23/09/2018 09:52

I think that’s really weird. It would be like your boyfriend not accepting you on Facebook. He probs portrays he is living a single life on his stories I would imagine. Dump imo

Seniorschoolmum · 23/09/2018 09:53

Does his family know you are back together? Are any of them less than keen about that?

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