Husband problems

[cuddlemonkey2016]

Does anyone else have a grumpy aggressive and rude husband?

I feel like I am married to a child. He is aggressive, shouty, rude to me and swears constantly. I don't feel like I have a good word to say about him to my friends (my friends think is a great 😕)

I keep a diary of all the horrible things he says to me as sometimes I can't believe that situation I am in.

Last night we had my step daughter here and he was telling me to go and fuck myself and telling us how he had called an overweight woman in a wheelchair a fat fucker in front of my 5 yo DD -. I really try and teach my kids that being kind is the most important thing and I heard this and thought "what am I doing" he spends all his time checking his phone and sitting watching tv.

I have no family to support me - they have all died from cancer - I had my ovaries removed as I am at high risk due to gene fault so going through an early menopause and feel so alone, I feel like I am trying to shield my girls from this life of living with a man who is not a good father or husband

He sounds horrible. Leave him. Or kick him out.

You know what to do.

Time to leave, OP. Post on the relationships board, you will get Bette support. You need it.

Where is the relationships board? X

It’s under ‘Body and soul’.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships

Here love

Why on earth are you not making plans to leave?
In your shoes I'd start increasing my outside activities as much as possible to increase support network options. Get copies of all important documents. Save up an emergency fund to give you a deposit when you go. Do you work? I'd also start talking to his ex and making a relationship there so your DC will be able to keep extended family around.

And btw, he's not only teaching your DC to be cruel to strangers, he's teaching her that this is what a normal relationship looks like.

Got a great relationship with his ex, She says she can't believe I stuck round this long.

I know- I'm desperately trying to teach my girls that this is not normal, but it's hard when they come back from the shops and DD tells me that dad swore and shouted and when I try and tell him that he can't do this- he actually squared up to me yesterday baring his teeth and telling me to shut up.

I just wish I still had my family here.

He's abusive op. This is abuse. Please call women's aid for advice on how to leave.
Hugs xx

You can google women's aid. They can help you make a plan to leave. They see this sort of thing all the time.

He is an abusive prick , get some support and get you and your DC away from him.

I echo everyone else. Get out now

Hi op, I've reported your thread and suggested that it's moved to the Relationships board

What a horrible man. Maybe his ex will support you, odd though it sounds! She clearly knows him for what he is, as do you now. He must have hidden it so well, the little sod. Sometimes my husband can be shouty and sweary but at least not in public, and no baring of teeth or direct aggression. Not good, but not as bad as your situation. Good luck, I think the only way is out.

Christ! My H is a bigamist

And mine.

You need to leave. There use be someone you can go to.

You need to get rid of this man. Having your family around or not, this is no way to live. Get a divorce and find someone who values you and deserves your time and companionship. He sounds loathsome.

I promise you OP that your life can only improve once you have removed this vile creature from your life. That is the only solution. It is frightening initially to be alone but you will adjust in no time at all and a few weeks in will be wondering why you wasted so much time on him. Lose him for your own sake and your daughter's.