To wonder how common it is to have problems with neighbours?

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I assume it must be common when people live close to each other, or maybe it’s just me??

Before moving to my current house I lived in a lovely flat, but It was actually horrible because even though I was very quiet, the neighbour below complained about every single little bit of noise, like me walking around in my socks...

I now live in a terrace house, and initially had some lovely neighbours. But then someone new moved in on one side and they had some very noisy parties. Now things are better with that neighbour, but there are some new people to the back of me, and they seem to have regular parties, even during the week... I assume other people would find that annoying, but sometimes I think that maybe it’s just me...

It happens I'm afraid. From what you've said your downstairs neighbour at previous home was unreasonable but thankfully that's over now.

I hope you have a fairly private garden, if people have noisy gatherings at least they won't be looking over into your place.

It's unusual to hear normal conversation and a bit of music through walls unless it is really very loud, if you have the TV on doesn't that drown the sound?

Try ear plugs at night.

If you're nice and friendly you might even be invited to the parties.

Last year people backing on to us had a party. They are not immediately behind our garden but a couple of doors down. We don't know them but can see their shed roof. We heard music and laughter during the afternoon, thought nothing of it. A bit later I was in the kitchen and when I looked through the window, I could see a really strange creature on their shed roof, dressed bizarrely in a green outfit, with his back to me. He was calling down to kids in the garden and they were laughing, booing and hissing.

Then what did I see creeping slowly onto the shed roof from the side?
Spiderman! When he stood up on the roof behind the green creature whom I assume was his nemesis, the boos turned to cheers!
You don't see that every day in S E London.

Kids party :-).

No it's not just you people are inconsiderate and defensive these days. I lived somewhere for 6 years happily but had to move due to leaving a violent relationship moved in somewhere else didnt want any bother and tje woman above me was so nosey and wanted to control everything including locking the door she knew I hadn't had the key to yet so I had to knock on her door to be let in.

I moved after several rows into again a place were the upstairs neighbour was nosey becaus of my last issue I didnt want anything beyond hello goodbye he took this offensive and began to make false noise allegation against me including "he can hear me stomping around it shakes his flat" and he lives above me.

My HA even started eviction proceeding against me until I proved to them he made 24 allegations against me when I was abroad including 2 police reports.

I'm in the process of taking the HA to court over the unfavorable way they treated me and the neighbour for harrassment. Even though he has been caught he still carries on his nonsense but he isnt as bad.

So to answer your question you aren't the only one ans it is worse if you are in one house divided into flat before I lived in an estate and everyone mind their own business

It must be so awful. I have truly wonderful neighbours on both sides. I hope none of us ever move!!

very common. my sisters neighbour complains about the way my sister shuts her kitchen drawers and says that my nephews runs up and down the stairs on purpose to wind her up. Oh she apparently plays basket ball in the house aswell to wind her up

My neighbour has screaming late night domestics and smokes drugs around her young kids. Then proceeds to send me threatening letters when I obviously call the police to report concerns for the children...yeah some people are just cunts unfortunately. Try your best to keep things happy within your home and don't let the bastards get you down.

Sadly pretty common if you live in close proximity. Our last ndn was quite odd (whilst very nice in many ways). Used to ask me to rearrange our curtains because they looked untidy etc. The other side got rats and didn't do anything about them.

The parties will probably die down once the new neighbours are used to their new place. If it's causing issues I'd pop round and let them know the noise is travelling.

I live in a mid-Terrace and the noise is worse than in a ground floor flat sometimes. The most shocking thing is that the older couple (60+) are way louder and more obnoxious than the couple next door with a teen and 2 kids. They were blasting their TV and shouting in their bedroom until 3am last night when I had work at 6am. Presumably having to shout over the TV. Their dog barks 24/7 as well so I’ve genuinely never had a moment where I’ve sat down in complete silence and been relaxed. I pay a lot of money just to be bombarded with their noise. They had the nerve to come to me and try and make peace by saying ‘now that you’re quieter we can be friends’. I had just been abused which was the noise they were referring to. In the least horrible way I hope something happens to them so they know what abuse feels like! Karma always gets people anyway. I’ve been as quiet as a mouse aside from nearly being murdered on several occasions. Next they’ll have a house full of students and be wishing I would come back

There seems to be a culture of "in my own home, I'll do as I like" without the caveat "as long as it doesn't impact on other people doing what they want in their own home" (even if that means sleeping during the night )

I don't think neighbourly problems are that common, it's just that seemingly the first thing people do about them is post on MN rather than actually addressing the issue!

Sadly is it fairly common these days ... there are a lot of horrible selfish people out there. Having lovely neighbours is wonderful, but we have found it rare on our many moves. I don't think there's a lot you can do apart from involving the council environmental control who may take action.

Even not in close proximity.

I have moved due to a neighbour from hell moving in next door to where I had lived for 18 years. The house was detached. They raised a boundary dispute over a 4 inch strip of land in our back garden the day they moved in. After a year of absolute hell in which I ended up close to a breakdown we decided to move.

Our new neighbour plays ear splitting heavy metal music through a speaker in his garden, so that he can hear it over the noise of his chain saw. He lives about a quarter of a mile away but we can hear it as clearly as if he was next door.

There used to be a phone in with a lawyer on LBC, and if anyone started a call with “it’s about my neighbors.....” he used to just say “Move”

It’s common. These days people will tell each other to get to fuck more than trying to get along or help each other.

My great grandparents moved into their neighbour’s tiny house for several months with 3 small children after a devastating house fire (before WW2)...imagine the AIBU these days? “Family of 5 next door and their cat want to move in, AIBU to tell them to get to fuck?”

Our neighbour owns and we rent. He is a busy body who stops random people in the street to hear him speaking very loudly how he owns his house and he can do whatever he wants to it - he actually can't as it is a listed building - he has just put up this 'fence' between our properties and am guessing he hasn't gained permission...

It can be okay though. Next door likes a party. We're a family of early risers with small children.

Once every two weeks she has people round, turns it down at 12am and said we can knock if she's too loud. They were still going at 3am last night. But as our kids slept through it we let it slide.

She has never once complained about kids waking through the night when sick, or the fact that she can hear the toddler who is like a bloody elephant blasting round the house.

When she moved in we had a chat as to what we'd both put up with and promised to go for a chat if it wasn't working.

I live in a flat and my neighbours in this old conversion are all perfectly nice and peaceful, nobody disturbs anyone else. I DREAD the thought of any of them moving away and getting one of the horrors described. Sympathy to all of you.

It’s common but mostly because people have different tolerances. For example, I can put up with the sound of babies wailing and children squawking because I’m very much used to the noise whereas I know others can’t abide it. My pet hate is yapping dogs, others don’t care about that. Some people would be relaxed about their neighbours having regular weekend parties maybe because they also have loud parties or they’re away at weekends, work late etc. For me, that would practically be the end of the world .

Different folks and all that.

I have no neighbours. It is bliss.

I always assumed police and the local council would step in and deal with inconsiderate neighbours, they seem ineffective and uninterested. There were 3 bad neighbours in my street of 40 houses - 1 has no moved away and 1 is mostly OK. The other one could star in tv shows.

Mine is a mid terrace. To the left we have issues with them growing bushes above certain height - obstructing the light in my window. Asked them to prune it ( he misheard and bellowed that he wasn't cutting it down ). I told him I didn't ask him to do that but was ignored. Few weeks later dp answers door to 'move your fucking car' DP says 'ask properly and I will. NDN ' ALL the neighbours have told me to just smash your back end off'. DP replies 'REALLY'? then says 'are you going to ask properly?' NDN ( In sarky voice - 'PLEASE?'. DP moves car. Other NDN smokes weed right outside front door so everyone we go out we get the lovely fumes ...

In a town, there has to be an element of give and take