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My Dad who has to go for a prostate biopsy and is saying he won’t go.
It’s on Monday.

He has just turned 60, has been having trouble with an urgency related to urinating for a while now.

Had raised PSA levels and recommended a biopsy.

He read the leaflet and went white, he has previously fainted at other medical appointments and I think he is terrified this will happen again.

I’m going to be speaking to him tomorrow, what can I say to convince him to go? I think he’s terrified of the results in a month too.

Would a calming tablet help relax him?
Could he ask the doctor if he can lie down incase he feels wobbly?

I’ll ask him if he wants to go alone/ with my Mum/someone else?

Any advice what to expect so I can explain the procedure to him, or what else can I say to him??

Sorry I know this isn’t AIBU, but I’m really worried about him and I know I’ll get good helpful answers here. Thank you.

Anyone at all?🤗

They'll give him a sedative if he asks - they're quite used to that sort of thing!

Thank you, that’s really helpful, I’ll mention that to him.

We do ultrasound prostate biopsies and do not offer sedation . Our patients would have to get it from their GP.

Thank you, I think on the leaflet it says the biopsy will be done with a needle? Is that the same as the ultrasound one?

Tell him to go. He can always refuse the procedure when he gets there. They will then explain what they are going to do and sedation options. If it’s on an endoscopy unit they will sedate so he needs someone with him to take him home. It’s his body he has a right to refuse but he hasn’t got all the facts. So ask him to attend and take it from there.

If he's having it done under ultrasound guidance , then he will have a probe inserted into his rectum along with a needle that takes snips of the prostate . Men say it's uncomfortable and not the best laugh they've had but it's tolerable with no sedation.

What does the leaflet actually say ? Does the letter not have the department on it ?

Thank you for all your helpful advice, we think we have persuaded him to go! 🤞🏼he will not back out before tomorrow morning!

Brill glad to hear it

Hope it all went well. My DH is having one tomorrow and he's panicking about it, he hates dental/hospital things as it is. I've looked at a lot of things online and from what I have read, it isn't as bad as it sounds. I've tried to get him to have a look but he doesn't want to know. Hoping it will be as quick as possible.

Yes thank you; it wasn't as bad as he had built up in his mind, was unpleasant but bearable. Hope it goes ok for your DH