To feel shaken scared bullied and harassed?

[Rah88]

I’ve just had the strangest experience at the Calais terminal of the Channel Tunnel. I’m travelling with 75 yr old parents and 3 yr old son. It’s pouring with rain and we’re parked up, my Dad comes back from the terminal and when he opens his door he touches the door of the car parked next to us. The lady in the car gets out and checks that there is no damage - rubbing all the dirt off her door and seeing that there is no damage. All normal so far - then the man with her takes a photo of our car and number plate. So I take a picture of their door to prove there is no damage ( there’s not even a scratch) and then their number plate as a precaution. Then the man starts to film me from inside his car and I can hear him swearing at me. Then for the next hour he continues to film me and my 3 year old son until we’re able to leave. We couldn’t leave the space we were in because it was packed so we tried to ignore him and I put a bag at my window to try to obscure my son from his view. Is this normal? It’s completely shaken me.

Some people are batshit 🤷🏻‍♀️ there are seriously people in this world who will get wound up over anything.

That is upsetting. People can be pretty mad. Hope you’re ok.

Surely a small apology would have gone a long way? “So sorry, glad there’s no damage!”

sounds weird but did you not say anything to them??

His behaviour is odd but your reaction is completely over the top. If you had genuinely felt in danger you could have alerted a police officer.

Can you report them to the authorities once you get to the otherside? Emphasise that he was filming your young child and that he took a picture of your license plate. State that you're scared he'll track you down and let the authorities do the rest. Play him at his own game, how do you know he's not a paedophile.

calling ((( and reporting him as a possible paedophile would have been a good option. I'm sure the police would have told him it is totally unacceptable to film a 3 year old

I was in the car with my mother once when I was a teenager, we were pulling into a parking space when she noticed a young mother waiting to put her baby in the car on one side so tried to leave her plenty of room, and accidentally moved too far over the other way and clipped the corner of the car on the other side. Unfortunately the guy was still in the carpark (we would have waited for him anyway but he saw the accident) came running over screaming and shouting to the point my mam told me and my sister to stay in the car because he was so aggressive. She apologised immediately, he started yelling that she needed to provide her details. She had already got them out as she keeps them written down just in case so agreed and tried to give them to him and he went mental, wouldn't take them. Started taking photos of our car from all angles, none of his or the damage. She asked him to calm down as the kids were in the car and she was admitting her fault and would get the damage sorted but he just kept shouting so she said she would have to call the police to assist. He just got in the car and drove off. Didn't leave his details for us to contact. Someone nearby told us he was the local rich guy landowner and had form for doing similar. He never put in a claim, we think he was trying to intimidate us into handing over cash. There's no need to shout and scream, accidents happen and most people will do what they can to make it right.

Ignore the man, he sounds crazy and like they were hoping they could pin damage on you that wasn't caused by you. You did the right thing, don't let them intimidate you.