To have a lost the plot moment

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2 teen DC, single parent works full time.

DC1 has borrowed some money from me recently and the agreement was to pay me back in chores. DC is supposed to be looking for a Saturday job but is also studying for exams so I am prepared to not pressurise too much. Chores/jobs have not materialised despite money being already given, as apparently ‘I will do it later’ is sufficient excuse. Last night I couldn’t stand having no clean cups plates or cutlery anymore and such a dirty kitchen so I washed it all up. I get up this morning and remind DC1 about other big job they agreed to that must be done today and I will not be lending money if this is what happens. DC1 gets shitty with me as is putting make up on and slams bedroom door.

DC2 is younger, no exams and too young for a Saturday job but has a few household chores. None of which have been done. I did the job last night after 3 reminders because the house was starting to smell. Bedroom is IMO disgusting with overflowing bin and plates/cups. DC2 comes into my bedroom this morning looking for clothes and ruins the laundry pile, doesn’t take own clothes out and leaves all the folded washing in a trashed pile. I call DC2 inconsiderate

I have now yelled at both DC which is not a regular occurrence for me. They cannot see in any which way they may have frustrated me or been inconsiderate

They usually do their chores without this drama but now apparently I am hugely unreasonable and mean for losing my rag

YANBU.

YANBU. They are being lazy and inconsiderate.

Yanbu. Teenagers are inherently selfish, I’m beginning to think.

I could have written this myself. They drive you mental don't they? Mine just don't seem to see the mess. Sometimes I feel like all I do is go on at them to tidy up after themselves. I'm desperate for my boys not to turn into the sort of cock lodgers that expect their wives to do everything, so I don't give in. But seriously, it just makes you want to scream sometimes doesn't it?

Aren’t they? And never ever wrong. Always seem to have 7866 counter arguments about everything. Why can’t they just say oh yes, sorry will do it now

Chores first to earn WiFi password

Don't give money in advance, they get their 'payment' once job is done like any other job they will have in their lives.