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House Dilema

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User02 · 22/09/2018 01:32

I have been thinking this over so many times that I am no longer sure of anything now. I thought I would ask the collective views of Mumsnetters.
I own several properties which are let out and also another which is the one that we live in as a family. The properties which are used for letting out are flats but where we live is a house. One of the letting flats is empty just now. Tenants' lease was up and we parted amicably. Flat is in good condition but neutrally decorated which is not my personal style.
These last few weeks cracks in the house we live in have appeared both inside and out. I am worried about this but do not know the cause. With the wind and rain today I have felt more worried than ever with the creaking noises.
There has been a thought that we would move to a place about 45 miles from where we live just now but this was prior to the worries about the cracks. I would have liked to move to this village but I realise that I have to do something about the house, it certainly could not be sold in this state. I would not like to do a decorating job to cover up the crack both inside and out. Likely a Surveyor would be able to see through a cover up.
If we move to the village it would be a lot of traveling around to meet with tradespeople or to have work done on the house. I could leave the DC at the schools they attend now and travel every day or change them to a school in the village and I dash around during the day but have to be back for school pick up.
The alternative would be to move into the vacant flat which would mean that the DC could still go to their current school and clubs. The flat is 3 miles from the house. This would appear to be an easy answer.
The flat involves a lot of stairs and there is a noise problem. This is more a lack of deafening than really noisy neighbours. There are several older residents in the other flat who are not really child friendly. I can ignore the neighbours. The main problem is all the stairs. The younger DC are not used to climbing so many stairs. There is the problem that each DC has 2 school bags, youngest has a bugy. The shopping has to be lugged up all these stairs. I have health problems which means I dont walk too far without pain. I just wonder if I would be able to cope with the stairs and all the carrying
This flat being a lot nearer the house and the schools it would be so much easier to keep track on inspections and work being carried out to the house. Te downside would be that it delays our move to where we would really like to be.
I have thought of putting the furniture etc into storage and rent a furnished property in the village we like but that still involves driving about meeting deadlines of workers and schools.
Would it be a bad move to go to live in a flat without parking but with a lot of stairs? Or is there something I am missing as an alternative. AIBU to think of moving into a flat when the DC are used to a house with a garden and we have private parking.

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OlennasWimple · 22/09/2018 01:34

Surely the first step is to get someone to look at the cracks properly and advise what action is needed to ensure that the house is safe?

itswinetime · 22/09/2018 01:36

Agree you need someone to come and look at the cracks and see what your dealing with you can't make a decision without all the facts

Mediumred · 22/09/2018 01:39

Er yes, def agree with oleanna, your cracks might not be that serious or might be easily remedied, or even if it is major work you will at least have the information you need to make the right decision. I wouldn’t think of moving until you’ve got to the bottom of the cracking issue.

trojanpony · 22/09/2018 01:40

Agree with others

Get someone around to check your house and get some quotes before you decide to move out of it

Seeingadistance · 22/09/2018 01:47

Yep, I agree with the others. Get quotes, and especially timescales for getting the work done on the house. It might be possible for you to continue living in the house while the work is done. If you have to move out, but for a short time, then the flat might be an option. Or if the work will be a major project, could you get a new tenant for the flat and use the rental income to rent somewhere more suitable for your family while the house is being fixed. That way, you're on hand while the work is done and still handy for schools etc.

Aquamarine1029 · 22/09/2018 04:16

I agree that you are jumping the gun. You need to find out about the cracks before you make any possible needless move. Cracks aren't necessarily the end of the world. There could have been just a slight shift in your foundation that can be easily repaired.

araiwa · 22/09/2018 05:19

Why are you trying make a decision without even finding out the condition of yours house?

Bonkers

User02 · 22/09/2018 12:30

HI all
Thank you for your very sensible comments. I knew I was getting myself into a right flap over all this and just could not see the way forward.
This is the first time I have been alone with all the decision making of the situation and finding it difficult. I am so tired from lack of sleep and quite out of sorts with all the pressure.
As a woman alone I prefer to have properties empty when I call in Professionals or Tradespeople in. Had some experiences of being treated like "woman alone, knows nothing so chance to take advantage". Perhaps it is a question of hitching up the big girl pants and getting on with it.
The house is in a real mess because of the tiredness and doing everything on my own while coping with DCs. I have thought out a list of jobs to get done before I can have the house checked for the cracks. Need to get some order and organisation in the house. Make charity shop drops and dump runs.
A lot of work ahead of me but thanks to those who have focussed my mind. I was not tackling this from a logical point of view.

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CardsforKittens · 22/09/2018 13:47

Although I understand your concern about all the things that need to be done before you get someone in to look at the cracks, I'd also want to suggest that anything potentially major or structural should be looked at asap and never mind the mess. I had to adopt that approach when my boiler gave up during the coldest week of winter. It was fine: the workmen made no comments on my untidy house, they just put in a new boiler, which was all I wanted.

It feels really good to get things sorted. Really really good. So good it's worth the brief embarrassment about how long it's been since you dusted the bedroom or whatever.

User02 · 22/09/2018 15:04

Cardsforkittens I take your point about the need should be greater than any embarassment about mess. I have thought about this and the worst bits can be cleared a bit to look semi decent and if things are really bad then the messiness is the least of what I need to worry about. Thanks

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