To think snatching and pushing are okay to do?

[chattingtoaspanishgirl]

As a 10 month old?

I just read somewhere that it isn't acceptable. Which leads me to starting this thread

My 10 month old is a tiny little thing but walks up to other children bold as brass and snatches toys. They're always around his age but also always bigger. This has gone of for a couple of months now.

On a rare occasion that the other baby tries to take the toy back, my DS seems to push them over.

I know I shouldn't find it funny but it was funny when he tried to steal something from another baby recently and said baby stood up as if to confront him. DS's eyes went from looking down to looking well above him once the other child was standing in front of him

But on a serious note, I tell him no and explain 'that is unkind, we do not take other people's things'. I am firm.

Surely there isn't anything to it. DS looks very as if he's confused. Surely he doesn't have the emotional maturity to understand that it's naughty?

He looks about 3 months old so people often mistake him for a younger child until they see him stealing and running up to things.

He's ten months old, at that age they honestly don't give a shiny shite about right/wrong or your explanation of it

Obviously keep intervening because it stops the other parents at playgroup thinking you don't care and it lays the groundwork for a few months time when he will start to understand a bit more, consistency being the aim of the game.

And it is a little bit funny when they misbehave at this age. DD1 had two little dollies, toddler DD2 snatched one off her and waddled away with it as quickly as she could. DD1 started crying which stopped DD2 in her tracks. She toddled back over the DD1 and I thought she was going to give the dolly back. Nope. She snatched the other one and then ran away again, a doll in each hand.

It's not about it being okay to do as such.
Kids will be kids won't they. They do hit and push each other, don't they
However thats not to say you do nothing.
You do have to keep reminding him. No that's unkind. I don't believe that you should stand there laughing because "That's just what kids do". Also keep in mind not all parents view it as kids being kids.

It's developmentally normal and how they learn about acceptable social interaction. YANBU.

It's not ok to do but they're just beginning to learn that at 10 months.
I would just intervene with an 'ah ah' and move them away/remove the toy.

It's not about it being ok or not, its about them being too young and developmentally immature to understand that it's not ok to do. Your job is to intervene and say to baby "no that's not kind" "wait your turn" "don't take that off another child please". Which it sounds like you are already doing. No they won't understand the first time you do it, so you have to do it again and again and be consistent, that's how they learn. Otherwise eventually you'll have a nightmare toddler/preschooler who other parents will dread seeing at playgroups.

I think ‘okay’ is the wrong word but it’s definitely normal.

My youngest is 16 months and recently (when I take something back that’s he’s snatched or move his head away from another child’s arm he’s about to bite) he’s got that utterly ‘wtf woman’ bemused expression when i’m telling him no 😂

You can literally see the cogs turning and him trying to process why the hell i’ve just taken the toy off him. I can see him thinking ‘I’ve just taken that car off Tom and i’m enjoying it, why have you taken it off me?’

Giving and taking is how children play. It depends what company you are in tbh. If you’re with close friends/family who are more relaxed about it I’d let the babies sort it out between themselves only preventing any hitting taking place. If you’re in a toddler group you’ll probably have to return items to whoever had them first because ime some parents are quite adamant about who had it first even if their child couldn’t care less.

I'm just amazed that a baby that only looks about 3 months old at the age of 10 months has been walking since he was 8 months old.

AllP Why? Surely his size is irrelevant?

When DD was 10mo she was titchy and still in 3-6m clothing but was cruising. People would do a double take to see her pushing along one of those vtech walkers at playgroup, she could barely see over the top of it! She's from a long line of short arses so was never going to be tall.

Ewlts DS can't even use that excuse, DH is 6'3

The other thread is about a 19month old, and nobody has said they wouldn't expect them to do it, people are saying when it happens, you have to intervene and tell them 'no' (which it sounds like you are doing).

Ewits that's hilarious

It’s normal but not ok. You have to keep doing as you are doing and intervening.

(And if you find it funny for goodness sake don’t show it)

There’s no magic age at which after ignoring inappropriate behaviour you now start intervene. You have to intervene from day one.

Apart from anything else, if he’s pushing bigger kids over regularly at some point some child is going to thump him.

I guarantee you won’t find that so amusing. In addition if you haven’t intervened previously you might find the other parents less than sympathetic regarding the thumping.