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FrankieStein · 21/09/2018 22:17

Me and DP have a relatively small social group. DP has HFA and takes a while to trust new people.

One of our close friends recently got a new partner. She's a tad hard to be around. She's also HFA, but annoys the hell out of people as she uses it as an excuse to do and say whatever she wants.
(Example, DP does not like unexpected physical contact, especially with strangers. She keeps poking and grabbing at him. He asked her to stop to which she replied "Can't help it I'm autistic")

This behaviour makes my blood boil as I know that autism isn't an excuse to act like an arse. DP would never behave this way.

So lately friend has been dropping out of a lot of social situations. Missing birthdays, days out etc etc.

Today on his gf's Facebook we find out that they've decided to move in together. 100 miles away. They've got the house, all signed sealed and delivered. Small housewarming. Only 6-8 people.

He hasn't told any of us.

For the past 5 years we've supported him through bereavement, anxiety, good times, bad times, break ups and everything. He's stayed over at Christmas because he didn't want to go home.

DP has taken it hard because he finds it hard to make connections with people. And our friend was basically living with us for months just prior to them getting together. So they got really close.

So aibu to be pissed off (more on DPs behalf than mine) that after 5 years of friendship we've been ditched without a word for someone he's known for 3 months?

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FrankieStein · 21/09/2018 22:19

Btw not to drip feed, but we've been really welcoming to his new partner, she's always invited to our events and nights out, all friends on FB, no arguments or anything. We were happy he'd found someone, even if she annoys me personally we wanted to see him happy. I'm

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ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 21/09/2018 22:30

She sounds really fucking annoying, but it's his life and his choice. You can just be there for him when it inevitably hopefully breaks down shortly!

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