Another MIL one unfortunately...

[MrsSmiththethird]

Ok so without giving away too much info - DH is celebrating a big birthday tomorrow. Tomorrow morning myself and DS are taking DH for breakfast and then tomorrow afternoon we’re goint out with his family. MIL has asked DH to go round and fix her shed roof tomorrow morning, I’ve asked him to say no as DS is excited to take Daddy out and ‘treat’ him (I’ve given him some money so he thinks he’s paying) but apparently it MUST be done tomorrow as the inside is being ruined. Then, next weekend we have arranged to go out with friends, all our age. MIL has announced to DBIL today that she is coming along (DH made it quite clear tomorrow evening is for family, next weekend for friends) yet she’s decided she’s coming along anyway and hasn’t yet told my DH this. He will no doubt tell her again she isn’t welcome but she will show up anyway.

AIBU to be completely fucked off? This woman has to be involved in everything (she actually showed up on the beach on our honeymoon!!!) and I know she will show up where we are meeting next week. I know we could change plans but there’s around 20 of us meeting at a place convenient for everyone so why should we??

oh OP I feel for you...I would just shut up..answer her questions with a simple not sure or havent decided and tell any family or friends you are engaging with not to tell her anything...Plan away do what you want just never tell her anything ..bless you it must be so frustrating,

You seriously need to tell your dh about her plans for next week NOW! And then change them to a pub/restaurant or wherever close to where ye were going. Tell everyone it's top secret and why.

I guarantee she'll have something organised for your dh in the morning too and the shed is a total red herring

Why can't your dh say sorry mum I do not want to fix your shed on my bday!!

Definitely change the plans for next week. The woman's unhinged & totally unreasonable, self-centred & ridiculous!

Did ye go abroad on honeymoon? Are we talking stalking you on the beach up the road or stalking you on a beach a plan ride away? (Not that it matters but I'm nosey)

You'll have to change the venue, won't you?

Wow.

Tomorrow's now a good day to do shed roofs, the wind will make it impossible.

She sounds a nightmare!

Oh dear. Hope you have a lovely morning!

This reminds me of my mad parents. When my sister was on honeymoon they text to tell her that they had arranged dinner in a nice restaurant by the beach for them. Table was reserved for 7pm.

They arrived and guess who was sitting at their table? It gets worse though because they had also booked the same hotel AND arranged to have the room NEXT DOOR TO THEM! Awful.

How did the morning go OP?

Avocado What did your sister do?

Just to all of it.

Avocado, WTAF?

Mind boggling

@MrsSmiththethird
Hope it went well!

Sorry I’ve been quiet .. been having phone issues!

He refused to go and fix the roof on his birthday but she discussed the leak every two minutes at his birthday meal.. it’s possible I hate her even more after the weekend!

Yep we were abroad, we were in Turkey and she just bloody appeared!

Oh wow. I shall stop complaining about my MIL now!

Have you told DH that she is planning to Gate crash his friends party?

Nightmare!

Horrible horrible woman. You and your husband must be very tolerant to still have this batshit lady still in your life. I though mils like thins on existed in bad American comedies!

Yep we were abroad, we were in Turkey and she just bloody appeared!

That moment when a young bride realises she has made a terrible terrible mistake .... :)

A friend has a mother like this - total narcisscist, turns up at any of our rare get togethers and genuinely seems to think we will be delighted that she is tagging along. She was the kind of mother who sat with her children's teenage friends chatting to them - for hours - no concept of the idea that we might want to talk without her. I've never seen her do anything for her children that required any effort or sacrifice or her being mildly put out.

From now on keep your plans shtum op.

Well DH’s birthday get together was yesterday; she rang DH in the morning just for a ‘general chit chat’ and then at the end of the conversation said ‘anyway, we’ll see you later at birthday drink location’ to which DH replied ‘no you won’t, we’re going out with friends, you and DF aren’t invited’ she had a little huff and threw in a ‘but I’m your MOTHER’ but she didn’t show up anyway. She did ring DBIL whilst we were out to complain that she wasn’t invited to her own sons birthday but I’m just glad she didn’t show up.

DH has gone to play Golf today so I’m at home with DS. His car is in the garage so he has taken mine meaning the drive is empty. She’s just called DH to ask where he is as she’s been to the house banging on the door and no one is in. Just another blatant lie as myself and DS are in the living room overlooking my driveway where she would have parked, the front door is unlocked and as you can probably guess, she isn’t the type to knock and usually just walks in and Ddog who usually barks if a leaf flies past the house hasn’t stirred from his basket

Bizarre bizarre bizarre woman

Why on earth are you leaving your front door unlocked with a MIL like this?