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AIBU?

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AIBU to transfer my son again?

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Lcats · 21/09/2018 15:36

My son just started year 1 in a new school (School B) after we moved to a new neighborhood. It was our second choice. I just got a call from LA that we are offered a place in our first choice School A! WIBU to transfer ds again after just three weeks?!

He wasn’t initially thrilled about the first move, but seems to be settling into his new class now. He isn’t particularly shy and I think he handles changes reasonably welll. But I really want to tread carefully here and I don’t want to upset him or put him under unreasonable stress.

My reasons to prefer school A:

  1. it’s our local neighborhood school. The kids friendships revolve around it and everybody I know suggests we won’t fully integrate unless he goes to the local school. I would really like him to have local friends and so far it hasn’t really happened.
  2. school A is two minutes from our house. He could just walk there with our neighbors and their kids. School B is 15 min away by bike in the direction of my office, which creates somewhat stressful mornings.
  3. the school A itself is a nice school with involved parents. The class has equal amount of boys and girls whereas School B has just 6 boys except my son, and so far he haven’t been able to break into their friendships. He plays with girls, but I think he is a bit upset about it. I don’t know what will happen in the long run, but the boys seem to be less up my sons alley (he is a very athletic boy who likes to run around)

My reasons to prefer school B

  1. the headteacher seems much nicer. In school A I think she has ongoing problem interacting with parents. Not sure what impact it should have on my decision.
  2. B more diverse in terms of socio economic background (not everyone is middle class and very international)

So should I move him? Thoughts? I haven’t asked him yet.

OP posts:
HolidayModeMum · 21/09/2018 15:39

Being a 2 min walk away and offering more opportunities to make local friends would swing it for me.

Thymeout · 21/09/2018 16:08

Move him. He'll have forgotten all about school B in a few weeks. Your reasons for preferring school A are sound. Friendships, equal numbers of boys and girls and being so close to the school will affect every day of his life.

BikeRunSki · 21/09/2018 16:13

Being a 2 min walk away and offering more opportunities to make local friends would swing it for me.

This, 110% this

MatildaTheCat · 21/09/2018 16:27

Move him. No brainier. Sounds as if he will settle quickly and hasn’t made new friends to miss in any case,
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Don’t make it too big a deal, rather an exciting opportunity.

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