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DD6 nightmares

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LottieLou90 · 21/09/2018 13:51

DD6 has been having quite a few bad nights this week where she has woken up screaming / shouting and crying.
After DP or I go in to see her, she calms down and goes back to sleep.

I have asked her what’s wrong every morning after this has happened and she brushes it off telling me it’s just a nightmare. Until this morning.

She has made a new friend that has recently moved to the school, let’s call them A (in the same class so 6 / 7 years old) and she has finally opened up to me that A has told her that A creeps into our house at night and watches her sleep whilst holding a knife.

If that isn’t bad enough, A also tells her that there is a person they know that also goes to people’s homes and if you wake up in the night and look at him then he stabs you and you die. He will then get his friends to kill your family. It then takes a ‘candyman’ spin where if you say his name 3 times he will appear etc.

A has told DD6 that if she tells anyone (which I guess explains why she didn’t tell me) or doesn’t want to be friends / play with A then this will happen to her.

DD6 has been invited to A’s birthday (got the invite yesterday) and has said that even though A scared her she wants to go (probably due to what A has told her) but I don’t want her playing with him let alone taking her to this party in a few weeks and spending money on a present for a child that has been scaring my child.

I’ve tried to tell her until I’m blue in the face that A shouldn’t be telling her these things and of course told her it’s not true so if she doesn’t actually want to go then nothing will happen during the night.

I will be talking to A’s parents as well as their teacher (difficult as A is in school earlier for club)

I feel awful for her that she’s feeling like this at such a young age and dread to think what A has been watching to say these things.

WIBU to point blank not take DD6 to this party? I don’t think I’m overreacting. I hope I’m not overreacting, although with this happening to DD6 and having a 5 week old I could just be over sensitive with emotions and lack of sleep!

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FullOfJellyBeans · 21/09/2018 13:54

That's awful! Poor DD. Honestly unless you know them I wouldn't talk to A's parents. Speak to the teacher and let the school deal with it. What kind of party is it? Will you or DH stay? Honestly if DD wants to go I'd probably let her personally, she'll be around A at school anyway.

YeTalkShiteHen · 21/09/2018 13:54

Hell no I wouldn’t take her, no chance. Poor bairn sounds scared out of her mind!

School and A’s parents need to get a grip on this. It’s particularly frightening given the age of the children, where the hell is A getting this shit from?

Your poor girl OP, you’re not overreacting at all!

aperolspritzplease · 21/09/2018 13:55

I would bypass the parents and just go to the school. As for the party can you plan something to do with her instead?

Losingthewill1 · 21/09/2018 13:58

Do not let your DD go to that party!

Talk to the school about what’s happening and either get A moved from your kid or get your kid into a new class.

What a horrible child with more than likely the same parents

YeTalkShiteHen · 21/09/2018 14:00

I’m actually really concerned that a 6 yo even knows what the candyman is, and also has ideas about a knifeman creeping into children’s bedrooms!

My DD is 5 and I’d be gutted if she’d heard things like that!

LottieLou90 · 21/09/2018 14:06

I don’t know the parents and when I asked DD to point A or A’s parents out in the playground she told me they won’t be there because A gets to school early (assuming A is in breakfast club)

DH has also suggested to bypass parents and speak to the school and leave it with them so I think I will do that to start off with.

I just feel awful for DD and annoyed at myself thinking I should’ve pressed her more about what was scaring her but I’d never thought this would be the case! I also now wonder how many other children A has been saying this to and not telling their parents

Spritz - that’s a good idea. It’s on a Saturday late afternoon so DH can look after baby whilst I take DD to a girly dinner or something. I will speak to her after school about it.

Thank you for your replies - I’m pleased it’s not me being over sensitive!

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LottieLou90 · 21/09/2018 14:08

Hen - I know!
It’s awful. I wondered if A has been watching things that parents may / may not know about or older siblings maybe?

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Shinesweetfreedom · 21/09/2018 14:08

Hell no you are not overreacting.
Do just as you have said.
School and parents and he’ll no to the party

YeTalkShiteHen · 21/09/2018 14:10

I wondered that, some kids in DDs class were talking about Chucky (Child’s Play creepy doll) and DD came home terrified.

Who the actual fuck lets little kids watch this shit? I’m 3-fucking-6 and that shit would freak me out!

She also asked about a PlayStation game called GTA which made DP flip.

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