to not want DP teaching DS...

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to say "let's put your cloves on" and "one two free " ?

He says he's just lazy and it does sound like a bit of a w@nky thing to get riled by, but it does rile me.

Am I?

No, it would drive me mad. Fine and cute for small children to mispronounce things, not OK for adults to try to teach them to say 'free' instead of 'three'.

i think if that's how he speaks you can't really expect him to speak any differently. you can just make sure you say it the proper way and hope ds picks up on your way instead.

i am from the black country and it would have been odd for my parents to say things "normally" around us children. as it is i havent really got an accent cos of the other people i grew up around. if no one else says it like that you can bet he won't pick it up anyway.

I don't think I could marry someone who didn't speak properly. Surely it was something you thought about before you decided if you could bear to listen to his voice for the next 40 years.

I decided against my favourite name for dd1 because I just couldn't stand the way dh said it, and I couldn't bear to spend the rest of my life hearing him say it. Tell him to pull himself together fgs.

Erm... we have agreed on something at home, DH teaches maths and I do the reading and writing. DH can't remember to use phonics and was making reading a bit more difficult for DS.

So, no, you are not being unreasonable. But, if that's the way he normally speaks I think that you may need to accept that your child may be developing an accent

Has dp always spoken like that?

If so, YABU

xenia, I'm assuming and hoping you wrote that with a smile on your face. Got me chortling

No guarantee that your ds will speak the same way anyway! My mate's Mum is Australian but she doesn't speak with an Aussie accent! He'll be reet.

That would drive me nuts, even though it reflects my 'native' accent. My Dad does baby talk to dd1 (3.1), infact it's worse than baby talk he resorts to a weird pidgin English, makes me want to throttle him ... slowly ... Amusing when dd1 corrects him though.

presumably you dated and spent time with your husband and engaged in conversation even "one two free " may have come up at some point...

so get a perspective

is he a good husband
is he a doting dad
are u a good team

you knew what he spoke like when u got together so why are you fretting about something so inconsequential

would u forgo a good relationship with this man for someone with received pronunciation???

i don't think so....

My DS's (4 and 2) seem to be picking up bad grammar at pre-school / nursery when previously they had it right. I saw has become I sawn or I sawd etc. and I reckon it's because they're getting confused by the other children around them. I always model the right version when they make a mistake but it's not possible to stop children picking up on outside (or in your case 'inside') influences. Keep up with your influence and at least they'll eventually put on a 'mummy voice' for your ears if nowhere else!

LOL at I don't think I could marry someone who couldn't speak properly.

I so agree. I could never love a man with a glottlestop.

I think that has to be quote of the week btw

yes squirrel, I'm still laughing about that now

I'm all for accents, it's just lazy pronunciation that offends me!

I spoke with a strong Bronx accent picked up from my mum until I was four a 'normal' Irish accent - then I went to university and was accused of having a 'posh' accent, now I've lived in England for nearly 20 years and sound English to Irish people and Irish to English people.
Accent is really mutable and your DS isn't going to end up speaking like his dad.
But it would annoy me too.

I hate people who say "Look at the bow wow" [dog] or the chew chew [train]"Ooh do you see the birdy?" or the moos

Or my personal favourite from FIL "I'm going to get your toesies" They're toes!

Surely if we teach our children the correct names now they will know & won't need taught the correct way later? Or am I a spoilsport?

awwwww.....toesies are kind of cute. But yeah, the rest is just making hard work for yourself!

You could always send your dh to elocution lessons or just overlook it as a foible (sp) of his.