Bad Amazon! Bad!

[Cindersdonegood]

AIBU to be irked by this?

I just watched an Amazon Echo advert with Alexa kindly reminding a SAHD that,
"Laura says the teething ring is in the freezer",
"Laura scheduled a play date for 3pm" and finally,
"Laura loves you and you're doing a great job".

This poor clueless 'ickle man having to have his missus leave instructions and praise programmed onto a device so he can look after his own child.

How nice he was babysitting for her eh? She's so lucky that her man will do her job right?

My husband would give me the side eye and ask if I was on drugs if I treated him like that when looking after his own children!
And I'd be wondering what the hell I was thinking when choosing to settle down with someone as useless as Peppa Pig's Daddy Pig.

This is cringey, right?:

Providing the dh is NT then there is not really any reason they can't remember other than dw will deal with that I don't need to give it headspace

"Laura says get off your bloody phone and put the washing on!"

Yep. Awful. Its as bad as the awful car one that was on over the summer.....where a guy is driving around receiving texts from his mate and his girlfriend. He can't decide whether to go home to her or got to watch football. Her offer of sex seals the deal in the end.

I absolutely hate it and the idea that women should make themselves sexually available in order to take preference over football and mates...grrrr!

@Cindersdonegood, perhaps Amazon are just sneaking one in before the rules change: www.asa.org.uk/news/consulting-on-a-new-rule-to-tackle-harmful-gender-stereotypes.html

I'll admit to laughing when I saw the comment that says "someone take this guys Mancard".

It's unbearably patronising to both sexes.

It is indeed twee. DH actually doesn't watch a lot of TV, but happened to be wondering past when it was on. He stopped, said "patronising shite" and wandered back to his den.
I can imagine back when DD or DS were babies me leaving him messages as if he was too stupid to know what to do with a baby. In fact, when I was very unwell after having DS with my mental health, he had one baby who had been in neonatal for 4 months and was on oxygen at night and a tonne of meds. Also a nearing two year old DD who was fond of hiding in cupboards until I was convinced she had got out the house. Plus me, weeping one minute and angry the next for no reason at all. And he did it without any helpful reminders. If we'd have had an Alexa then, I probably would've asked it to tell him he was a twat.
I know we ladies have to put up with stereotypical twaddle a lot, but I think this shows men do too.

Such a patronising advert! Imagine if a man recorded messages throughout the day for a woman? "Don't forget to iron my shirts" "I need you to make me an appointment at the dentist..." "The bathrooms look like they need doing..." There would be uproar!

@CaMePlaitPas what you said!

The next one will be Alexa telling lovely little wifey how to fill the car with oil, or how to clean a paintbrush.

FFS, don't they get it??!! Totally patronising to both sexes.

Oh My God. That is extremely crap of Amazon. Just got so mad reading those statements.

It's like saying - Looking after your child is Laura's job, well done for managing to do tasks that belong to someone else. Don't worry, it's been noticed and here is your praise!!! It won't be long before you can pass all those tasks back to Laura, where they belong and everything will magically happen again, with little inconvenience to yourself. You don't need to keep any organisational information related to home or baby in your head, because it's in Laura's (the manager and organiser). So you can keep your head completely empty of that crap when in those arenas. Laura has a super-brain which enables her to keep all house-related, baby-related and work-related information and organisational stuff in there. You can only cope with work-related stuff, (but don't worry, we all know you possess the superior brain)...

Oh, am I venting.....?

It really annoyed me too.
I said the same to my husband, it wouldn't be fair to do that on either side.

Rubbish just like the majority of adverts. How do they get it so wrong? Who is in their focus groups? There can't be anyone representing me!

YANBU, that’s a really shit advert. I bet Laura’s dp doesn’t leave her helpful reminders when he’s out, and that she did all the wifework before she left so he can have a lovely day cuddling the baby, patting himself on the back and thinking how easy staying at home with a small child is.

Oh I love this ad. I kind of imaged she’s just gone back to work after mat leave and it’s his first time alone with the baby. I know it’s the 21st century but most relationships still tend to be individuals playing to their strengths rather than a strict 50/50 division of labour. Plus the baby is super cute.

Yeah well amazon seem to have done a great job of pissing off their target market with this advert!!! I saw it and thought exactly the same.

Unfortunately this could be my husband...
The amount of 'I am not the manager, organiser or your parent' discussions we've had...

I thought the same.
Imagine if the mum had been left messages from the Dad 😡😵😱

The Amazon irritates me too but the one I shouted at last night is the Febreze advert where John's girlfriend has major control issues over the food he is allowed to eat.

This made me mad! Hated thus advert. Either she is a complete control freak or knows quite incompetent he is!

Totally missing the point of the thread though but @TheQueef how do you do that? I want my echo to call people names but she seems far too polite for that.

Yes but it's also the reality for most parents who aren't the primary caregiver...

I'd be offended by this advert if I was a man.

We are fighting against stereotypes of women all the time, why do we allow men to be stereotyped in this way? As if they can't look after a baby without their wives micro-management of everything.

Stop with the stereotypes and then men can't blame their incompetence on being male.

There is a guide on reddit LT you download a skill so you can trigger the response you choose, DS thinks he's very funny when he changes tech to make me look stupid so I enlisted his cousin.
Alexa either told him he was a douche or explained that douche is a vaginal wash. Very satisfying.

Even the actor looks pissed off

I'm quite alright with this advert because you could look at it a different way. The dad could be knackered and have a habit of forgetting simple things (like my husband), or the wife could be a control freak (like me) even though the dad doesn't need constant reminders. I didn't watch it like "omg this is so offensive to dads", I watched it like "yep, my husband is a stereotypical forgetful bloke".

As 50/50 as he is, his memory is shocking. If I don't add DD's appointments to his outlook calendar, he'd forget them

Nope, he 'forgets' because you take responsibility for it. How do you think his boss at work would react if he 'forgot' to attend meetings, call clients, or make appointments? Not well I reckon and I bet he doesn't forget anything there.

@PeakPants that's exactly my thinking. So many OH's are given a pass because they "don't know how to cook!" Or the wifey has to make all the appointments because he "wouldn't have the foggiest how to deal with all that" but at work he can, quite rightly, be expected to follow a detailed operation manual to complete a new task but a simple recipe for a meal is beyond them or organising a meeting with unknown companies is totally expected but dealing with his dentist? Oh no! Not happening.
Playing dumb at work like so many do at home would have them at the jobcentre quicker than they could say "Alexa".