To insist that my friend does not put my pics on social media?

[MenaMecca]

I’m travelling at the moment and I told my friend not to post pics with me on them on social media. She’s insisting. I don’t post pics of myself anymore on socmed - havent for a long time.

AIBU to insist and to be pissed that she’s bugging me to agree?

It's unreasonable of her to insist despite you asking her not to. (I hope you asked, not insisted). People are sensitive to how they come up on photos and it's annoying when someone just plops it on social media, and if you say you don't like that pic of yourself, and they go "aww you look luvly there".

In the past I asked a friend to kindly remove a photo of me I hated and they did. Equally I never tag anyone; but if someone hates their picture all they have to do is ask me to remove it. And I will, even if it's a nice photo of me as well.

You can offer her to take photos of herself she can post, but without you in it.

Just ask her to not post them of you, or if it's a flattering photo of her ask her to crop you out of the photo...

If she posts it and won't remove it, just notify Instagram/twitter/Facebook and ask them to remove the photo as it's an invasion of your privacy and you didn't consent to a photo of you being put online for world viewing

YANBU - I have two friends who don't ever post pictures on social media (one is very slightly in the public eye, and the other has safe-guarding issues with her DC). They both requested that their friends don't post pictures of them either, and I have always, always respected that. So has everyone else.

I think asking someone not to put your pictures or toir children’s pictures on SM is completely reasonable and quite normal.

We went to a friends for dinner recently and they post their lives on SM. I specifically said I didn't want
videos of me playing games being posted. It was - with the bit of me saying don't put on cut out. I didn't say anything at the time but wish I had as it's still pissing me off.

YANBU. Some people choose to post pictures online, some people don't. She needs to respect your choice.

I hope you asked, not insisted
I really disagree with this. Anyone had the right to insist people don't post pictures of them online. It's not always because they are sensitive of how the look in a photo, there can be a whole host of reasons - safeguarding, privacy, job implications, and simply just not wanting their picture on the internet. They shouldn't have to ask - they can absolutely insist.

Why not?