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Partner on Maternity Ward

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Rosley · 19/09/2018 22:16

Backstory: I am 37 weeks pregnant and currently under going an induction due to OC complications. Patients on the Antenatal Wards are allowed one partner to stay overnight in the chair beside them. Maternity at our hospital are extremely busy at the moment and are sending some women elsewhere to give birth as there is no room.

A few of us had our induction started last night on the same ward. The pessary caused me to have some irregular minor contractions plus vomiting and diarrhoea.

One couple on the ward was pressing their bell basically hourly asking for pain meds. Which is fine but did mean there was an almost constant beeping as staff are so busy.

Around 2am I started to just nod off when the boyfriend in this couple started shouting in the hallway as no one had answered the buzzer for 40 minutes. He was pacing between his partners bed and the hall shouting at a midwife that he was “getting irate.”

I called through my curtain “Can you please be quiet there are other people here going through the same thing right now. We need to rest.” He replied to me saying “It’s alright for you I bet you already had your paracetamol” Confused

Midwife told him he was upsetting patients and then called security to warn him to tone it down.

The trouble is now we are still here on the ward and I feel really isolated and awkward due to what happened last night. I feel a little intimidated by the prospect of facing this guy again on the postnatal ward with my new baby.

Did I overreact last night? I have a lot of time on my hands at the moment as induction isn’t really progressing so might be overthinking.

OP posts:
Allthewaves · 19/09/2018 22:20

Imo partners should not be allowed on wards. Private rooms fine but wraps no way.

Happygummibear · 19/09/2018 22:23

I would have been the same. It's one thing listening to other women moaning and shouting from pain but a whole different thing for a bloke to be making a nuisance of himself and annoying other women trying to rest.

LeftRightCentre · 19/09/2018 22:23

I'm so glad the partners weren't allowed to stay overnight in wards when I had mine. No, YANBU

dinosaurkisses · 19/09/2018 22:25

You absolutely didn’t over react!

If I’d been on the ward, I’d have done a little cheer for you having the gumption to hold him to account.

Good luck with the rest of the induction!

Stars1979 · 19/09/2018 22:25

Wow partners aren’t allowed to stay on maternity wards normally. No you didn’t overreact. When I was induced there was a woman on a mobile phone talking right outside my curtain and it irritated the hell out of me. Wards are so difficult and you are going through an emotional tough time. Don’t worry if you see him again doubt anything will be said, anxiety is high and he will be preoccupied with his own life. Concentrate on you and best wishes.

PositivelyPERF · 19/09/2018 22:27

I think you’re brilliant, OP. Good for you, for speaking out. He’s a wanker and sounds like a performance partner. If he says anything, report to the nursing staff straight away.

PositivelyPERF · 19/09/2018 22:28

P.s. congratulations on your pregnancy. 💐

Speechiebaby · 19/09/2018 22:32

Ask for private room. I did this for mine as something similar happened and I felt uneasy and couldn't relax. If you don't ask you don't get. Fingers crossed they sort it for you and remember before you know it you will have a beautiful baby in your arms Smile

PeaceRiot · 19/09/2018 23:21

He sounds like such an idiot. Just try to block it out and go to your inner happy place as much as you can. You’ve nothing to feel awkward about. Hope things get moving for you soon and it all goes well.

Hopefully you won’t be on the same ward after. I know I wasn’t in the same room as anyone before and after. Time’s can get out of synch and people get moved around.

I was induced with my first and it was a frustrating, stop-start experience, no success with pessaries but had an overall positive birth experience with the hormone drip (and an epidural).

Sorry you have to deal with idiots at this time. YANBU Flowers

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