Hello mumsnet,
First time user here looking for advice, I guess I'll just get to the story. I'll try to keep it short.
My grandparents divorced when my mum was a toddler. As a result my mum didnt have a relationship with her dad, we reconnected with him nearly ten years ago when I was a teenager. I couldn't invite him to my wedding because my grandmother still holds a grudge. Before the wedding there was an argument where some horrible things were said about my grandad (by people who have never met him) I messaged the family member responsible asking them to please not argue with any family at my wedding and urged them to apologise to the people they hurt. This resulted in a huge argument. The family member chose not to attend the wedding, my grandma did come but may as well not have and has since made it clear she stands with the other family member. I tried to speak to her three times on the day and she blanked me and left as soon as the meal was over. We haven't spoken since. Fast forward over a year and I decided to try and mend the relationship by inviting them all to a Christmas meal (including the family member who did not come to the wedding and has since made it clear she wants nothing to do with us but hey ho thought I'd try anyway). My grandma texted me back saying "I'll get back to you" and I haven't heard anything for a few days now. Am I being unreasonable to be upset? How long should I leave it before saying anything further? I can promise you I have not said a bad word to anyone throughout this whole ordeal and simply asked for everyone to respect our right to have a relationship with my grandad. I thought my grandma would want to fix things too but she clearly doesn't care enough about me to want to continue a relationship.
There are obviously lots of ins and outs on top of this but it would end up being a book trying to explain it all so that's the long story as short as possible. Thank you in advance for any advice.