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Original poster

Who is BU? A parking one

77 replies

WhenIWasAYoungWarthog · 19/09/2018 21:41

I’m currently having issues with neighbours blocking me in my drive. House number 2 has recently had their front garden turned into a drive with a dropped curb. The road is a cul-de-sac and the 3 houses have a garage at the end of the road (pink on the diagram but I only drew 2 rather than 3). House 2 owns a window cleaning business so they wanted a drive so they could fill up their vans with water easily from their house. However, they have 2 vans and insist on parking the second one in front of their dropped curb. The yellow bit is the gate into my drive. It’s a big stone wall either side of the gate so no chance of coming out at an angle.

It’s a narrow road and a struggle to get 2 cars past each other at the best of times. Neighbour claims he’s allowed to park there as the council wouldn’t have approved a dropped curb if there wasn’t room to park in front of it. No idea if this is true and googling it doesn’t really give me much! He’s getting really stroppy every time I ask him to move and has suggested I park in his garage. But I want to use my drive! He’s making out that I’m just being pathetic and the only reason I can’t get out is because I’m a bad driver and it’s my own fault for insisting on having a massive car (a Prius so hardly a massive Range Rover or something).

My house is a lot older than the 3 on the other side and he’s arguing because I don’t have written proof that my drive is legal then he’s doing me a massive favour by letting me out of my own drive.

Aibu? If not, is there any regulations anywhere that I can quote at him? I keep telling him it’s illegal to block someone onto their drive but he just keeps saying that I don’t have a real drive as I haven’t applied for a dropped curb from the council. My house is 300 years old. As far as I can tell the gates to my drive have always been the entrance way. I’m not sure you had to apply for approval in the 1700’s.

Who is BU? A parking one
OP posts:
Fiffyshadesofgreymatter · 21/09/2018 13:57

@DeathyMcDeathStarFace

You don't pay business rates in council tax if running a business from home. You only pay business rates if the building you work in is solely used for business. So if you have an office built in your garden then the council can add a charge for that space (but they never actually do). If you're business area is within your residential property then you only pay normal council tax.

NoFucksImAQueen · 21/09/2018 21:43

did he go round?

Ilovemypantry · 21/09/2018 22:01

Please update OP....what happened??

Travis1 · 21/09/2018 22:07

Hope you went with dh, don’t be hiding away from this donkey

Notthemessiah · 21/09/2018 22:14

Can't you park in front of your drive for a while? As there is no drop kerb you can't get in trouble and presumably it would stop him being able to park in front of his drive (and maybe even on his drive if the angles are tight). Give him a taste of his own medicine and he might realise it's not worth it.

jcyclops · 21/09/2018 22:44

When his van is gone, you should park like this and see if he then understands your problem.

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WhenIWasAYoungWarthog · 21/09/2018 22:45

I went round with dh and he pretty much denied doing it. He claimed he only parks it in front of his drive when he’s filling up the other van and is never more than 20 minutes. Dh told him he’d been parked there all night meaning he couldn’t get onto our drive and twatty claimed is was a one off.

He’s agreed that he won’t park there again but was saying that if I’d just come and spoken to him calmly he’d have happily moved it. That he doesn’t want strained relationships with his neighbours and very much making out that I was making a drama out of nothing.

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 21/09/2018 22:52

Can you ask the Council to paint double yellow lines across his drive?
(or do it yourself Grin)

Happygummibear · 21/09/2018 22:53

I think you need to install cctv pointed at his house that constantly records so you can evidence him being a complete cock

ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual · 22/09/2018 06:46

What a lying, gaslighting, dickhead.

Why does he seem to have such a problem with you in particular?

Bestseller · 22/09/2018 07:00

If you don't have a dropped kerb he's right. It's actually illegal to drive a cross a pavement where there is no dropped kerb. He's still being unreasonable and unneighbourly but he is technically right, although in those circumstances I suppose the offer of the use of his garage is quite generous.

RiddleyW · 22/09/2018 07:01

if she drops the kerb she’ll be underground.

Labradoodliedoodoo · 22/09/2018 07:04

He must totally gaslight his wife

TwoOddSocks · 22/09/2018 07:11

Oh my god what an absolute twat - what makes him think your DH is going to believe some twat like him above his actual wife?

Catastic · 22/09/2018 07:17

I knew he would cave when a man went round.
What a weaselly shithead. I am outraged on your behalf. The audacity of him blocking you in consistently and trying to make out that you are being a dramatic woman.
I feel sorry for his wife.

NeeChee · 22/09/2018 07:21

Can you report people for parking over a dropped kerb? One of my neighbours has started doing this (it's not a dropped kerb for a driveway BTW).

chuckiecheese · 22/09/2018 07:21

The guy is a bully!

I understand that it is awkward because of the fact kids are in same class etc however if you are in the right and he is in the wrong.

Talk nice, gather evidence & check legalities. Be fair and appear reasonable but be firm and factual. Good luck Smile

chuckiecheese · 22/09/2018 07:24

Oops- missed your post.

He ia a liar & a bully.

How childlike!

Glad he appears to have listened.

I would clarify your situation in case it happens agsin Wink

oooompa · 22/09/2018 07:40

Have you approached his wife and asked her why her husband is such a dick stain? I'd be asking her every time I saw her at your sporting group why he lied and is refusing to move his van, make it awkward for her seen as he doesn't mind making it awkward for you.

Mumteedum · 22/09/2018 07:50

This has made me Angry how Dare he be such a gaslighting, bullying prick? Just AngryAngryAngry

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WhenIWasAYoungWarthog · 22/09/2018 08:07

Dh doesn’t believe him at all obviously. I just can’t believe he was such a dick about it, just smirking at me as he was saying that I should have just spoken to him and not been hysterical about it. The only time I got really cross about it was Thursday as I couldn’t get to work but he couldn’t even see me then as he’d buggered off out.

I don’t really want to speak to his wife about it. I see her at rowing but she’s in a different class and I know her to pass the time of day with. But I don’t really want to have a conversation with her about what a dickhead her dh is. I’d love to know exactly what I’ve done that’s pissed him off so much though.

Anyway, hoping this will be the end of it now.

OP posts:
Greenkit · 22/09/2018 08:17

What a C**T, he knew what he was doing.

Catastic · 22/09/2018 08:19

I'd bet my house you haven't done anything to piss him off OP. He's just an inadequate twat on some kind of weird ego trip.

Minta85 · 22/09/2018 08:34

OP you haven’t done anything to annoy him - he’s a sexist pig and coward who thinks it’s fine to behave badly to a neighbour when she’s alone during the week without male ‘protection’. Unfortunately this is still far more common than it should be.

TownHall · 22/09/2018 08:51

He sounds awful. Hope it works out.

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