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To be pissed off with mother in law?

8 replies

1sunflower · 19/09/2018 21:12

We always had a great connection and we spoke on the phone almost every day. When people were saying that their mother in laws are nightmares I didn't believe it... until recently ! Few weeks back she started acting so weird out of nowhere. After talking on the phone she just got so rude for no reason. Recently she doesn't give me advice on my DD but orders me to do crap. Like today she told me to go and put her in the living room to crawl not in bedroom as there's more space, but I said that the floor is dirty and that's why I've put her on the carpet in the bedroom, so she said I'm over exaggerating. She keeps on telling me what to bloody do with my child all the time... also what I find so strange is that she keeps a photo in each room from a wedding day of my partner and his ex wife (which she says she hates) and I mentioned before that I don't feel comfortable with that
She took it off and the next visit there pictures were up again.

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IdahoJones · 19/09/2018 21:15

Someone will tell you she's gaga even though she's probably what, around 50?

Important thing - what does your husband / partner think is going on here with his mother?

MereDintofPandiculation · 19/09/2018 21:43

You can't decide what photographs she can and cannot display in her own home. You and DH may have tried to write ex out of history, but she's still someone MIL will have had a relationship with.

You say she's rude, but it's quite rude of you to tell her her carpet is dirty (even if it's true).

Wheresthel1ght · 19/09/2018 21:49

If this is out of character, have you noticed anything else that has changed?

It sounds like she may have had a stroke, have you noticed any weakness on one side at all? Any slurring of her speech?

If it is utterly out of character I strongly suggest you get hold of her gp and get her an emergency assessment

Twotailed · 19/09/2018 21:51

Was she annoyed that you said her floor was dirty?

1sunflower · 19/09/2018 22:05

Hahahha nooo. We speak on the video WhatsApp as she's in a different country. I said to get that my floor is dirty and that's why I have put my baby to crawl in the bedroom on the carpet rather then a dirty floor(we have a puppy and she is still potty training) . Yes guys I understand that I can't decide what pictures she can and can't have, but my MIL always kept sailing what a bitch his ex is and that she cheated on him and took away rights of seeing the son, made everything difficult for the family and me. Now I don't understand why would you keep pictures of the person you hate unless you want to piss someone off? And out of respect for me she would at least put them away for the time we come and visit her don't you think?

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cycleasy · 19/09/2018 22:37

Next time you're there go and draw moustaches on your partners ex wife on the pictures. Then deny it was you that did it while laughing when confronted.

Wheresthel1ght · 19/09/2018 22:43

I assume your dp is also in the pictures? Maybe it is that she likes the pictures of him rather than the ex?

whatwouldkeithRichardsdo2 · 20/09/2018 13:03

Definitely draw a moustache with a permanent marker. 🤷‍♀️

Knock the daily video calls on the head. It's unnecessary and you have set up a dynamic where her continual presence and involvement is normalized.

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