AIBU to copy DD school books in case she looses them?

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DD started secondary school a few weeks ago.

She walks home and occasionally stops at the park with friends for 15 minutes on the way.

Since the start of term she has left her bag at the park twice. Luckily both times it has still been there when we've gone back for it.

Today she has realised she can't find her science book. She thinks maybe her teacher asked the class to hand in the book, but she's not sure. Hopefully she will find in tomorrow, but there is a good chance it's lost.

It's a large school and children do not have lockers or a place to leave books. They are kept at home and they take the books that are required for each day.

Would IBU to photocopy her work books periodically so that her work isn't lost forever if she has a scatterbrain moment.

I realise my priority should be to help her develop better skills when it comes to looking after her things and being organised. However, copying her work seems like a sensible contingency.

AIBU

sounds like a good plan

No. She has to realise there are consequences to her actions.

No. She’s in year 7. This is a perfect learning opportunity and unless she really struggles then I wouldn’t. She can always borrow and copy off a friend if needed which would be a more suitable consequence.

Different if she needed it for revision.

It sounds harsh I know but

I think she should learn a lesson about not caring for her belongings.
She be less if s scatterbrain with a few detentions rather than you enabling it

I really wouldn't bother. If she does really lose it ask her to. Borrow a friend's with neat writing and either photocopy it or make her copy it up. She needs to learn to get organised and some inconvenience to her if she loses it is no bad thing. I'm a teacher.. If someone loses their book I will give them a new one but they are expected to copy up the lost work.

If she’s only in year 7 I can’t imagine there is anything vital that would need producing if she lost her book, it’s not like it’s coursework or assessments, it would be better for her to face the consequences of losing it and learn now than to lose work later on.

Yes! You can't do that you aren't teaching her any responsibility that way.

I get where you're coming from, OP, but I wouldn't. She won't ever learn to look after her things if there are no consequences.

Well ideally she should be photocopying her own book - taking responsibility for her own work if she knows that she's likely to lose it.

I don't think it's really that necessary though - I very rarely looked back through my own book, and it isn't going to save her from being told off.

Thank you for all the replies.

She will be required to look back over and review her work for exams in December and June. Surprising for Y7 but her school seem to favour exams in every year in preparation for 'proper exams'.

I agree that there should be consequences for loosing any work, and that ideally she would need to copy up work from a friend. In reality I'm not convinced that this would be very easy. There are 5 classes or sets in each subject so not easy to pin down which friend to ask and they may not be allowed to lend their books to each other.

Copies would be a contingency or last resort.

God no, learning to fail, be resourceful and make your own mistakes and solutions is so important.

Better she fucks up now when it doesn't matter instead of leaving her dissertation on the bus half an hour before the deadline when she's at uni.

No. She has to realise there are consequences to her actions.

This completely..

No, if you rush in she’ll never take responsibility for her actions and omissions. Let her learn about consequences.

Just get her in the habit of taking a photo on her phone. She needs to take responsibility. It will get better.

Everyone else at secondary has that many books and carries them.

It really is that easy...

At what point to you stop solving her problems for her? If she loses her book she can face the consequences, whatever they are, she may learn to take better care of her stuff.

Buy a Tile, put it in her bag. Download the app.
At least you will be able to locate her bag.
Let her lose stuff, only by falling down that pothole will she learn to climb out.

No, she needs to take responsibility. Exams in December and June are normal in all years at secondary school, surely.

In reality I'm not convinced that this would be very easy

So what? This is the natural consequence of not looking after her stuff. Not mum handing her a bunch of photocopies to revise from. If you make it easy then what's the incentive to try harder to look after her own stuff?

Another no. Don’t create that safety net. Then it becomes your problem if you don’t photocopy the book for a few weeks and she loses it and doesn’t have the work. She needs to be able to manage it herself.