Blended Family

[allinmyhead12]

so this morning i find that the albeit empty tube of toothpaste i share with my DD that i threw away has been retrieved out of the bin and put on the shelf in replacement of the new tube i got out the cupboard! the husband has decided that it wasn't empty enough to throw away! my issue is has he thought that it was my DD his step daughter that did this and has he done it just to annoy her as no conversation has been had regarding this even with me to moan about her throwing it away....surely if he was concerned about waste then an adult conversation to her would have been better than just swapping it back to upset her! she is nearly 11 so more than capable of understanding. I dont know why this has annoyed me so much maybe it is the thought that he has deliberately done this just to upset them!
We have had many a "conversation" lol in regards to discipline to which he has several thoughts about the way i do things until it comes to his kids but i guess thats another story!!!! Or could this be the reason im upset about a tube of toothpaste...i mean who goes into the bin to look for it when you dont even use it as you have your own!!! why does it bother him?? AM I OVERTHINKING THIS lol is it a man thing??
Does anyone else find it hard trying to keep everyone happy including yourself when it comes to blending families?

What did he say when you told him it was you?

just asked why i threw it. in my head i was saying because im an adult and can make that decision lol but i actually said cos it was empty, no real response just an oh

I've come across something similar with my DP (not so D at the time) and my DD's (his SDD) we've been together a long time, and it was only recently I noticed a few things.

Tightening the lid on "his" pop bottles REALLY tight so that there's no way the girls could open them.
Moaning that someone had taken "his" water bottle out of the fridge (I re-use Evian (etc) bottles a few times, refill em and pop in the fridge) his defense was that it was a bottle that he'd bought on his way to work a few days before.

It's pure spite and petty! I've nipped it right in the bud, and told him if he ever does anything like that again, he's out!!

we have been together for five years now and every now and again i feel like he is doing it just because but im never sure if im blowing it out of proportion in my head, but he does have his moans about wastage etc but although they are 13 and 10 they are still kids and things dont enter their heads like adults.... the hardest is when he lets his kids get away with stuff like that though like its double standards and ok for them to do it as he doesnt see them that much

He's gone through the bathroom bin ? Where you put used sanitary products? How's she going to feel comfortable managing her periods if he's going through bins ? Yuk. Nasty man.

Do people put used sanitary products in bins anyone can see in? I certainly never did.

when they are getting on its great, dont get me wrong my DD, as much as i love her, can be very testing(the word we use) and her and her brother bicker ALOT which makes it hard in the house at times. Im not very confident to talk to him directly as you can probably tell as its easier to put it on here lol to complete strangers! I suppose just wanted some back up that i wasnt getting worked up all over a tube of toothpaste lol