To ask how you switch off and rest?

[y0rkier0se]

I’m ill - awful chest infection which isn’t getting better. I’ve been to the doctors (twice) and I’m off work. I’ve tried staying in bed but I can’t sleep. I’m so so tired but just can’t seem to sit and “rest”, I’ve moved all the furniture out to clean the radiators and skirting boards currently. I have a stressful job and colleagues talk about having a chill weekend and staying in PJs but I just can’t do that! I’ve tried reading a book but can’t help but look around and see what needs to be done. Am I alone?

Get your hands off the fucking furniture! Please go back to bed/the sofa and stop moving heavy things ablut or you will not help yourself get better.

In these situations i go on youtube - Graham Norton's Best Guests compilations, Who Do You Think You Are and WDYTYA USA, X-Files bloopers, documentaries about volcanoes, world's most dangerous spiders... anything. Then snooze. Rinse and repeat.

Hope you feel better soon

Watching with interest....currently signed off with anxiety/stress and I know I should be a itting doing nothing and trying to relax but the mental list of housework I could be doing is growing! Toddler's at nursery and I really should be using the time to to stuff I don't normally have time for....

Have you got Netflix/now tv or can you get a free trial? I find getting hooked on a boxset will keep me on the sofa.
Killing Eve on iplayer is also very good.

Book, audiobook or box set?
Maybe also force yourself into pjs or even get into bed. i find it impossible to do much once I'm in pj's!
You NEED to rest!

I fry a shit tonne of halloumi, buy a big bar of chocolate and find something to binge watch in Netflix. At the moment I can't stop watching TOWIE...please don't judge me. It's my guilty pleasure. I second watching killing eve on iPlayer!

DS and I are currently sharing the worlds worst chest infection so that's my plan for today! When he's asleep at least...

Watching with interest....currently signed off with anxiety/stress and I know I should be sitting doing nothing and trying to relax but the mental list of housework I could be doing is growing!
I get more stressed the longer the list gets so if I was you I'd be spending time trying to get stuff done so that a, the list would be shorter & therefore less stressful and b, I'd not be sat worrying. Sometimes being busy (away from what's bothering you, obviously!) can help you get through the crappy moods.
But as for how to switch off and rest - haven't the foggiest! If there's something on my list I can't settle...

When you are better try hot yoga...I've just started this and it is sooo relaxing in the heat and the stretches are so tension relieving. Honestly I was a total yoga sceptic but I'm hooked. It's so hot and dark and calm that you can't not relax. I come out feeling energised. (It's difficult but not impossible for an unfit person like me)

Or cup of tea in a too hot bath then straight into pjs.

Binge watch a box set!

Why is this "AIBU?" Do you even know what that means?!

I'm a lazy fucker comparing to you. When I'm in pain, I take a painkiller and lie down somewhere to die, and if someone wants anything from me - they'll die first. Everyone around me knows my low tolerance towards suffering and lets me be.
I think people around you can be trained into picking up when you are unwell, so then you can rest. People very soon get adjusted to someone's limitations, and that's a good thing.

Netflix
Meditation on YouTube
Bath
Yoga breathing/stretches. If ill, maybe a facial steam (cloth over bowl of hot water) and sinus massage.

Reading in bed/bath. Can't notice all the housework so much from those rooms.

Watching!

Sorry mingebags, should’ve been AIBU to be cleaning when off ill I know I am but just not sure how to switch off. I do have Netflix, and I want to watch Killing Eve as I loved Sandra Oh in Gretna anatomy so this afternoon I will have a hot bath and sit with a cup of tea and watch it. It’s not that I can’t sit, it’s more that I can’t mentally turn off knowing there’s things to be done

Drugs

When I feel really unwell I lie in the dark and listen to classical music if I can't sleep. Radio 3 is good as there's no adverts. Or Spotify.

You really, really need to rest. Now is not the time to clean. If you overdo it you could make yourself even more unwell.

Also audiobooks, telly, knitting, crochet...

Drugs are not good, Andy.

Can't you put on a soothing album, op?

Mindfulness.

I think Andy means medication. Anyway drugs ARE good. Pretty sure many of us wouldn't have loved to adulthood without them.

That should have been some drugs are good obv, not all drugs. Meth is bad. Real bad.

Can you tell yourself that the important thing for you to do is rest? And try and turn it into the thing you’re doing?

(That may well make no sense)

Jesus. Lived to adulthood, not loved.

As you were...

Down load free app bbc radio iplayer, radio 4 has just quiz , drama , comedy, thriller etc no music , no news no waffling . there are loads of good programs put some head phones on and lie down and allow your imagination to wander .

There's audiobooks on the BBC radio iPlayer app too :)

Try setting yourself a number of tasks to do with the promise of something nice (like a box set) afterwards. That way you'll be productive (good thing) AND you might relax better afterwards because you'll feel you've earned it.